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Nov 02

The role of resilience in learning

By Iain Boyle Education, Mental health, numeracy skills, reading, Uncategorized

by Katie Morgan
Head of Pre-Prep, Great Ballard

Helping your child reach their academic potential

Childhood isn’t something to be hurried through or outgrown. It’s something to be treasured, protected and nurtured. Children should have the opportunity to climb trees, sit around campfires and learn what it means to be both independent and part of a community – and this spirit of curiosity and courage is just as important in the classroom as it is outdoors.

When it comes to learning, resilience plays a key role in helping children reach their academic potential. It’s not just about doing well in tests or ticking off tasks, it’s about developing the internal tools to keep going when things get difficult, to bounce back from mistakes and to believe in their ability to grow and improve. Resilient children are not immune to failure, they embrace it. They understand that setbacks are not signs of weakness, but opportunities to learn and adapt. They try, fall short, reassess and try again. And perhaps most importantly, they don’t rely solely on being ‘clever’ or ‘naturally gifted’ at something. Instead, they develop the mindset that effort, persistence and making mistakes are what lead to success.

This shift in thinking is at the heart of Growth Mindset, a concept introduced by psychologist Carol Dweck. Children (and adults) with a Growth Mindset believe that intelligence and ability are not fixed traits but can be developed with effort and time. Contrast that with a Fixed Mindset, where children might say, “I’m not good at maths,” or “I’ll never be picked for the cricket team.” These beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies, halting progress before it even begins. Instead, we can help children shift their internal dialogue to something more empowering: “I can’t do this yet”, “If I keep practising, I’ll get there.” Parents play a critical role in shaping this thinking. Praising effort over outcome: “You worked so hard on that project,” rather than “You’re so smart” reinforces the idea that what matters is the process, not just the result.

This starts early – as toddlers learn to walk they wobble, they fall and they try again, undeterred. We cheer them on with gentle encouragement: “You can do it! Have another go!” In that moment, we instinctively understand that struggling is essential. But as children grow, and academic expectations increase, we sometimes lose sight of that truth. We want to protect them from frustration and disappointment, but in doing so, we risk stealing the very struggle that helps build resilience. Even our well-meaning attempts to comfort can unintentionally undermine a child’s sense of capability. Phrases like “Don’t worry, you don’t need to be good at everything” or “You’ll drop that subject soon anyway” send the message that some things are simply beyond their reach. But what children really need to hear is that persistence matters, that making mistakes is part of the journey and that with effort, they can get better.

One of the most practical things we can do is to help our children set meaningful goals. Not just the daily adult-led ‘to-do list’ goals like finishing homework or tidying their room but the ‘big dream’ goals that come from their own passions and interests. Whether it’s building a LEGO castle, learning a skateboard trick or writing a story, self-directed goals build motivation and show children what it feels like to work towards something that matters to them. Setting goals also taps into how our brains are wired. Every time we reach a milestone, our brains release dopamine (the ‘feel good’ chemical associated with achievement). Even the act of planning toward a goal can boost motivation. Children feel empowered when they take ownership of their aspirations, and that confidence carries over into more challenging areas of learning. When we combine that with a strong sense of perseverance (the ability to keep going despite setbacks), we’re giving our children a powerful foundation.

One effective strategy is to help them build a ‘catalogue of proof’: a mental (or even physical) list of things they’ve overcome. From learning to ride a bike to performing in a play, these small wins show children that they are capable, even when things are hard. Later, when they’re struggling with a spelling test or a tricky bit of maths, they can draw on that evidence: I’ve done hard things before, I can do this too.

Equally important is helping them see their mistakes not as failures, but as part of the process. Talk openly about your own errors and what you’ve learned from them. Instead of focusing solely on results, provide feedback that highlights strategy, effort and progress. Ask open-ended questions: “What did you try?” “What might you do differently next time?” “What worked well?” All of this takes time, patience and consistency. Resilience doesn’t happen overnight, it’s something we nurture over months and years, through small everyday moments. A bedtime chat about what went well today. A word of encouragement when homework feels tough. A quiet moment spent really listening to what’s on their mind, no matter how little it may seem.

It may also help to build habits around gratitude. Research shows that practising gratitude, whether through simple conversations at dinnertime or by journaling, boosts mental wellbeing. A child who regularly reflects on what they’re thankful for is more likely to maintain perspective during difficult moments. Their ‘gratitude bank’ becomes a buffer against life’s inevitable bumps.

Finally, let’s not forget the power of environment and routine. Small acts of ‘situational support’ (laying out clothes the night before, putting their bag by the front door or setting up a dedicated homework space) can reduce stress and build a sense of control and independence.

Helping children become resilient learners isn’t about shielding them from difficulty, it’s about walking alongside them as they navigate it. It’s about fostering curiosity, celebrating effort and creating space for them to struggle, reflect and grow. Because academic potential isn’t just about what a child knows. It’s about how they respond when they don’t know something – yet.

Great Ballard is a small school with big ambitions, providing affordable education from Nursery to GCSE. We believe wellbeing is the foundation that allows the real learning to happen. www.greatballard.co.uk

Nov 01

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Educating the whole child

By Iain Boyle Education, Mental health

by Kirsty Keep, Francesca Milling and Matt Thomas
Heads of the Lancing College Preparatory Schools – Lancing Preps Hove & Worthing and Dorset House

Why character matters as much as curriculum

In an age where academic achievement often takes centre stage, it’s easy to overlook the quieter, yet equally vital, aspects of a child’s development. Prep schools are increasingly recognising that success in life is not measured solely by exam results, but by the strength of a child’s character, how they treat others, how they respond to challenges and how they understand themselves.

Character education is not a new concept, but it has taken on renewed importance in recent years. Schools are placing greater emphasis on nurturing values such as kindness, empathy, resilience and integrity. These qualities are not taught in isolation but are embedded in the daily life of most schools – through assemblies, classroom discussions, peer interactions and the way staff model behaviour.

Children thrive in environments where they feel safe, respected and heard. When schools create a culture that values emotional intelligence as much as academic performance, children are more likely to take risks, express themselves and develop a genuine love of learning. They become more confident, more compassionate and better equipped to navigate the complexities of growing up.

One of the most powerful tools in this approach is the development of emotional literacy. Helping children to recognise and regulate their emotions from an early age builds a foundation for lifelong wellbeing. It also fosters empathy. When children understand their own feelings, they are better able to understand the feelings of others.

This is particularly important in the early years, when children are still learning how to navigate social situations and build relationships. Encouraging children to talk about their emotions, reflect on their behaviour and understand the impact of their actions helps them to develop a strong sense of self and a deeper connection to those around them.

Schools that focus on both character education alongside academic achievement often adopt proactive strategies to support emotional development. These may include mindfulness activities, peer mentoring and structured programmes that teach self-regulation and resilience. Such initiatives not only help children manage their emotions but also empower them to ask for help when they need it.

Importantly, this approach to education doesn’t mean lowering academic standards. On the contrary, children who feel emotionally supported are more likely to engage deeply with their learning. They are more resilient in the face of setbacks and more motivated to achieve their personal best. When children are taught to value effort, kindness and curiosity, they become learners who are not only capable but also courageous.

Educating the whole child means recognising that every child is unique, with their own strengths, challenges and potential. It means creating a school environment where values are lived, not just taught. It means preparing children not just for the next stage of their education, but for life.

In a world that is constantly changing, the ability to adapt, empathise and lead with integrity is more important than ever. By placing character at the heart of education, prep schools are helping to shape a generation of young people who will not only succeed academically but also contribute positively to their communities in the future.

The Lancing College family includes its two Prep Schools located in Hove and Worthing, Dorset House School in Pulborough and Little Lancing Day Nursery & Forest School.
www.lancingcollege.co.uk, www.lancingprephove.co.uk, www.lancingprepworthing.co.uk, www.dorsethouseschool.com, www.littlelancing.co.uk

Aug 08

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Preparing dads for fatherhood

By Iain Boyle family, Mental health, Relationships, Wellbeing

by Gordon Dowall-Potter
MANtenatal

Why support matters more than ever

For many men, becoming a father is one of life’s biggest milestones, and one of its biggest unknowns. While conversations around motherhood are supported by books, classes, apps and appointments, fatherhood is often treated like something that will “come naturally” once the baby arrives.

But here’s the thing: it doesn’t always come naturally. And when men don’t feel prepared, confident or supported, the impact can ripple through their relationship, affect mental health, and family life.

Men want to be involved, but are often left guessing
The idea of dads standing awkwardly in the background while mum does everything is outdated and most modern fathers want to be hands-on from the start. They attend scans, they take paternity leave (when they can), and they’re often just as excited, and nervous, about what lies ahead.

But despite the willingness, many men describe feeling unsure, sidelined or invisible during pregnancy and the early days of parenting. Antenatal services tend to focus on maternal needs (as they should), but that leaves a lot of dads guessing about what their role is and how to prepare.

Antenatal education aimed at men can make a huge difference. It offers emotional insight, relationship tools and practical parenting skills, delivered in a way that speaks to dads directly and honestly.

This is exactly why I set up men’s antenatal classes, to educate, guide and support all dads, no matter their background, relationship status or starting point. Too often, men are expected to simply “know what to do” without ever being shown how. These classes offer a space where dads can ask questions, build confidence, and prepare emotionally, without judgement or jargon.

It’s all part of my personal mission: No Dad Left Behind. Because when we give dads the tools and the time to prepare, they show up for their partner, their baby and themselves. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being present. #BestDadYouCanBe

Mental health: A quiet concern for new dads
Research shows that around 1 in 10 fathers experience postnatal depression, although professionals suggest the real figure may be much higher. Unlike mums, who are routinely screened and encouraged to open up, many men still feel they need to push through alone and in silence.

Some don’t recognise the symptoms, brushing off low mood, irritability or withdrawal as tiredness or stress. Others worry that admitting they’re struggling could be seen as weakness. This silence can lead to emotional distance, tension at home and longer-term mental health issues if not addressed early.

Open, honest support and early intervention is the key – and that starts with normalising the idea that fatherhood can be just as overwhelming for men as it is for women.

The benefits of being prepared
When dads are supported in their transition to fatherhood, everyone wins.

Children benefit from stronger bonds with both parents. Partners feel more supported and less alone. And dads themselves feel more confident, connected and capable. Even knowing how to be helpful – in the birthing room, what to say, how to advocate, what not to take personally, can make a huge difference to how included and empowered a father feels.

Being a dad today is about more than providing. It’s about showing up emotionally, being present and being part of a team. But none of that happens by accident, it takes preparation, and it takes space for men to learn and grow without judgement.

Where we go from here
If you’re a mum-to-be reading this, one of the most powerful things you can do is involve your partner in the preparation process. Whether it’s recommending a class, sharing resources or even gifting him a course designed for dads, it sends a clear message: we’re in this together. It can help him feel included, informed and more confident about what’s to come.

And if you’re a dad reading this, well, you’ve already taken an important step. Just by engaging with this conversation, you’re showing up. You’re seeking support, wanting to understand more and laying the groundwork for being the kind of parent you want to be.

The truth is, fatherhood isn’t something you’re expected to just “know” how to do. Like anything else, it takes learning, patience and support. That support is out there and we’re here to help you find it.

Parenting is a shared experience. When both parents feel informed and supported, families are stronger, relationships are healthier and children thrive.

No dad should have to navigate this alone and with the right support, no dad has to.

Gordon Dowall-Potter is the founder of the multi award-winning MANtenatal programme – the UK’s leading antenatal education platform designed specifically for dads-to-be. Gordon works alongside NHS services and perinatal professionals to improve education, awareness and emotional support for men as they prepare for fatherhood. Learn more at www.mantenatal.com

Jul 04

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Evolving the way dance is taught

By Iain Boyle dance & Art, Exercise, fun for children, Mental health, Playing

by Jess Child
JC Dance

The importance of a positive safe and inclusive learning environment for children.

Dance classes, especially ballet classes, are notoriously known for their strict nature. Often putting the mental and physical wellbeing of students at risk. It is time to switch this narrative and normalise a gentler approach which supports students rather than tearing them down. This looks like an emphasis on wellbeing, inclusivity, positive reinforcement, listening to the body and the understanding of injury prevention.

Emphasis on wellbeing means treating dance students as human first, and dancers second. Mental health must be a priority in the dance space. All humans are different so why does this have to change in a dance class? Students will all have different needs and experience classes in different ways. Teachers who model empathy, respect and have open communication with their students, create a safe space where children feel valued, supported and free to explore movement without fear of judgment. This encourages individuality of each student, nurtures children’s confidence, and empowers them to express and be themselves. Dance should be a source of happiness and connection, not pressure.

Inclusivity in dance classes is essential for creating a space where every child can feel seen. Dance should reflect the diverse world we live in, welcoming all body types, abilities and ways of thinking. Recognising and supporting neurodivergent students, for example those with autism, ADHD or other cognitive differences, means adapting teaching styles, using clear communication, and stepping away from the rigidity of ballet training.

Using different learning styles and pathways allows children to be themselves and thrive. It is important to challenge the outdated stereotypes of how a dancer ‘should look’. Using an approach of body neutrality in dance classes, focusing on what our bodies can do, how they move and how that makes them feel. Taking the focus away from how our bodies look. In a society already rampant with diet culture, dancers are even more vulnerable, often in front of mirrors and looking towards a stereotypical ‘ballet body’ as a goal. If a child has a body and is doing ballet, they have a ballet body! It’s a teacher’s job to protect their students from these toxic ideals.

Teaching children to listen to their bodies in a dance setting, is crucial for safety and injury prevention. Often young dancers’ bodies are pushed beyond their limits creating lifelong problems. We have to respect our body’s limits and remember young bodies are growing and changing all the time, so these limits within each individual student will also change. Encouraging body awareness will help young dancers recognise pain and fatigue early. This will reduce the likelihood of injury and create lifelong healthy movement patterns. The teacher’s job is to teach students correct technique so as to not put any added strain onto their growing joints and muscles. It’s teaching children it’s OK to rest, its OK to listen to your body’s internal cues. Empowering students to respect and have autonomy over their own bodies.

At the heart of evolving dance education is the importance of a positive and supportive learning environment. For children, positive reinforcement and offering corrections and constructive criticism from a place of kindness, builds confidence, motivation and resilience. As a teacher it’s important to lead a class from this place. The way a teacher speaks to their students, directly reflects how the students speak to themselves – teaching from a place of highlighting progress rather than focusing solely on mistakes will help children feel safe and valued. They will be more open to exploring what their bodies can do and take risks without fear of failure and judgment, therefore able enjoy the process of improving technique, nurturing a lifelong love for dance.

Jess Child runs IC Dance – dancing together, growing together. Where every child is welcomed, valued and supported in their movement journey.

www.jcdanceclasses.com 07305 228770 info@jcdanceclasses.com @jess_jcdanceyoga

Jul 03

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Children need more art

By Iain Boyle dance & Art, Education, fun for children, Mental health, play, Playing, Wellbeing

by Sebastian Dewing
Founder Artroom Brighton

Nurturing creativity beyond the classroom

Back at primary school, in the 1980s, I had a weekly art lesson in an art room, a pottery class in a pottery studio and a needlework lesson in a fabrics room. Whereas I appreciate, this was not necessarily on offer in every school, it certainly wasn’t radical.

Fast forward 40 years and the demotion of art from a core subject to a smattering of token options that children dip in and out of, is astounding. If my daughter is lucky enough to get an art lesson, it is usually in conjuction with a topic lesson – like lets draw ‘a Viking long boat’ or design a ‘save the rain forests’ poster. There is still value in this but it is rarely art for art’s sake. Our children are being disadvantaged by the requirements of national educational targets, which hugely favour ‘core’ subjects, meaning art is now undervalued in primary schools. It is the participation in art, rather than the ability and skill level of the child, that is fundamentally important here.

In a world of innovation, it couldn’t be a more crucial time to use art to empower our young people, as employers place a huge emphasis on creative thinking, in addition to personal skills such as confidence, effective decision-making and originality. Such skills are bolstered by studying the arts and being able to think outside of the box, innovate and be creative is something that seems lacking in many young people entering the workforce.

Sir Ken Robinson in his TED Talk, Do Schools Kill Creativity, said that: “Creativity is now as important in education as literacy – we don’t grow into creativity; we grow out of it. Or rather, we get educated out of it… Our education system has mined our minds in the way that we strip-mine the earth: for a particular commodity. And for the future, it won’t serve us. We have to rethink the fundamental principles on which we’re educating our children.”

The Digital, Culture, Media and Sport Committee (2019) said in their report Changing Lives: “We are deeply concerned by the evidence we received around the downgrading of arts subjects in schools, with all the consequent implications for children’s development, wellbeing, experiences, careers and, ultimately, life chances.”

While schools work really hard to deliver a broad curriculum, the time and resources available for creative subjects, such as art, are frequently limited or sidelined. Yet, for many children, art isn’t just a subject – it’s a language, an outlet and a way to connect with themselves and the world around them.

Art workshops can offer a space where that creative expression can truly flourish. Unlike the school environment, where outcomes and assessments can sometimes overshadow the process, workshops are structured around exploration and fun. They allow children to use new materials, think visually and build confidence in their own ideas – all in a relaxed and supportive setting.

During the long summer break, when routines shift and screen time can easily dominate, art workshops can provide children with meaningful, hands-on experiences. It’s not just about keeping them busy – it’s about giving them the tools and space to grow, create and have fun.

For parents looking to support their child’s artistic interests beyond the classroom, workshops can be an ideal stepping stone. They bridge the gap between what schools can offer and what children truly need to thrive as young creatives.

At Artroom Brighton, we truly and firmly believe that art has the power to transform and nurture the lives of young people – we’ve seen it happen many, many times.
In the current climate, it’s no wonder that more and more parents are choosing to send their children to our classes. Unlock YOUR child’s creative potential and book them in for a course at our studio. Visit www.arrtroombrighton

Jul 03

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Nurturing creativity

By Iain Boyle Early Years, environment, Forest School, Green, Mental health

by Karen Borley
Senior Education Advisor, N Family Club

The magic of the atelier and self-expression in the Early Years

In their early years, children establish the foundations of how they view the world, relate to others and express themselves. One way to support this development is through the use of an atelier, which is a dedicated space for self-expression. Inspired by the Reggio Emilia approach to early childhood education, the atelier is a vibrant, ever-evolving environment where children of all ages can make sense of their world through art, play and sensory discovery.

The atelier concept comes from the Reggio Emilia approach, a renowned educational philosophy that places high value on children’s natural creativity. Reggio educators refer to the variety of ways that children interpret the world as the ‘hundred languages of children’ with the environment as the ‘third teacher’. Aligning with the Early Years Foundation Stage’s (EYFS) Expressive Arts and Design area, an atelier can facilitate the ‘hundred languages’ through 2D and 3D art, clay modelling, transient art, photography, music and sound, amongst other experiences. Children are free to experiment, to combine different mediums, to revisit ideas and to create without the pressure of a ‘right’ answer. Essentially, the journey matters as much as the end result.

When set up thoughtfully, as a dedicated room or as a part of the main family room, the atelier should invite exploration, curiosity and wonder in children of all ages. Experiences and materials can be adapted to suit a child’s stage of development – whether it’s a toddler squishing clay between their fingers or a preschooler constructing a 3D sculpture with the same materials, the atelier should welcome all forms of expression and creativity. For babies, an atelier experience might be about sensory exploration – watching light and shadow, listening to soft music or touching different textures. For toddlers, it could be about mark-making, experimenting with colour, or stacking and building. Older children may work on more complex projects involving design, sculpture and collaboration. Every child has the opportunity to develop confidence in their ideas, to try new techniques, and to build something uniquely theirs.

In the atelier, children can be introduced to a diverse range of artists whose work sparks curiosity and wonder. Artists such as Joan Miró, Jackson Pollock, Henry Moore and Yayoi Kusama can be explored. For example, a child might respond to Kusama’s dots with their own vibrant pattern work. These experiences help children see themselves as artists, too. They learn that art is not about perfection but about expression – finding their voice, rhythm and mark in the world.

The atelier is also a space for project work – an opportunity for deeper, shared discovery. Children can return to their creations over days or even weeks, adding layers of thought, materials and meaning. This ongoing process demonstrates to children that their ideas matter and deserve both time and attention. Educators should play a key role here, introducing new materials and techniques, asking thoughtful questions and helping children to connect their experiences to broader ideas. Older children can be provided with the opportunity to collaborate with one another by discussing plans and building together, and these early experiences of teamwork and communication lay strong foundations for emotional and social development.

An important aspect of the atelier approach is documentation. Children’s creations should not just be displayed, but also celebrated. Photos, notes and collections of work allow children to revisit past experiences, reflect on their process and share their stories with peers and their families, supporting a sense of ownership and pride. By giving children the freedom and tools to express themselves, we help nurture confident thinkers, communicators and lifelong learners. In the safe, inspiring space of the atelier, each child is invited to tell their story in their own unique way. For families, knowing that such a space exists in their child’s nursery can offer reassurance that their child is being seen, heard and valued every day.

Founded in 2017, N Family Club set out to rethink Early Years education – developing a progressive curriculum, building a sector-leading team culture, and a world class service that adds real value for families. A proud B Corp, N Family Club were rated the highest quality nursery group in the UK by Nursery World in 2022 & 2023 and were accredited as a Great Place to Work in 2024. www.nfamilyclub.com

Jul 01

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They’re not broken – it’s their superpower potential

By Iain Boyle ADHD and neurodiversity, Education, fun for children, Mental health, special educational needs

by Jack Francis
The Skate Club

How passion helps neurodiverse children discover their ‘superpowers’

A few months ago, I stood in front of 200 primary school children, sharing stories from my life – skateboarding down hills with Christmas trees strapped to my board, struggling to keep up at university and writing a book I never thought I’d be able to write. As I spoke, a boy turned to his mate and whispered, “I’ve got ADHD and dyslexia – like him.” That moment stuck with me. That small moment of recognition, pride even, is why I’ve been doing these assemblies.

I was diagnosed with dyslexia at university, and ADHD much more recently, as an adult running a skate school. Growing up, these weren’t framed as ‘superpowers’. At best, they were obstacles. At worst, signs of somehow falling short. I’d often been called bright, but that made it harder – like I had all the pieces, just not the ability to put them together.

It’s only in recent years that I’ve come to see how much of what I’m good at – from teaching, to coaching, to running a business – is tied to the way my brain works. My hyperfocus, creativity, energy and problem-solving skills aren’t things I’ve achieved despite my neurodiversity. They are my neurodiversity. And I’m not alone.

The power of passion
In every school I visit, there are children sitting quietly with heads full of big ideas, or legs bouncing under the table. Some have diagnoses, many don’t. They might struggle with reading, listening, or managing frustration – but the potential in those children is massive. What they need isn’t ‘fixing’. What they need is space to explore something they care about, something that lets them feel good at being themselves. For me, that thing was skateboarding.

Skateboarding gave me freedom. It wasn’t about winning or being picked for a team. It was about solving tiny physical puzzles – how to move, how to balance and how to land a trick. It was social but low-pressure. I could focus completely on what I was doing, fail over and over again and still feel proud of the progress. Looking back, skateboarding was the first place I truly felt capable.

Today, as a skate coach, I see the same thing in other children – especially those who are neurodiverse. Children who are anxious or fidgety, or who’ve been told they “Just need to focus,” often find a rhythm through skating. I’ve watched children go from nervously standing on a board to rolling down ramps on their own, grinning from ear to ear. Some of them go home and do their reading for the first time in weeks. It’s not about the trick – it’s about the shift in how they see themselves.

Reframing ‘difficulty’
One of the challenges for neurodiverse children today is that their journey often begins with being told what they can’t do. A diagnosis, helpful as it is, can also carry an unspoken message: you’re going to struggle. And yes, there may be challenges. But there are also advantages – and children deserve to hear that side too.

Dyslexic thinkers often have strong visual and spatial awareness, creative imagination and big-picture thinking. Those with ADHD may have intense focus (on the right task), incredible energy and rapid-fire ideas. Autistic children often bring attention to detail, emotional honesty and deep interests. But these traits only shine when we let children follow what they love.

That’s the heart of it: when a child finds their passion – whether it’s skateboarding, coding, storytelling or animals – it becomes a doorway into confidence. Passion gives purpose to their focus, structure to their energy and joy to their learning. And when a child starts seeing themselves as someone who can, not just someone who struggles, everything changes.

The adult’s role
As parents, educators, and carers, our role isn’t to tell children who they are – it’s to notice when they light up, and to help them follow that thread. Sometimes that means letting them try unusual things. Sometimes it means not pushing them to do what everyone else is doing. And sometimes it just means listening when they talk about something they care about.

Skateboarding might not be your child’s thing – and that’s fine. But something is. There’s something out there that lets them feel free, focused and fully themselves. Our job is to help them find it. Not to demand they perform, but to offer them the kind of support that says, “You’re not broken – you’re just different and that’s a strength.”

I still get overwhelmed. I still struggle with admin. I still forget things. But I’ve also built a skate school, written a book and coached hundreds of young people. And I’ve done that not in spite of my neurodiversity, but because of it.

So when your child gets obsessed with something, try not to brush off. Watch closely. That might just be the spark that helps them discover their superpower.

Jack Francis is the founder of The Skate Club and author of “How to Train Your Skateboard”, a beginner’s guide to skateboarding.
www.theskateclub.com

Jul 01

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The benefits of an active holiday camp

By Iain Boyle environment, fun for children, Holiday camps, Mental health, Wellbeing

by Emily Finch
Ultimate Activity Camps

The school holidays are a time for children to take a break from the school routine, have fun, relax and recharge but they can also be an opportunity for growth, adventure and to learn new skills. Holiday camps offer a fantastic alternative to boredom at home, long hours in front of the screens and finding fun and engaging childcare solutions for parents. Active holiday camps create the perfect environment for children to stay fit and build valuable life skills through physical activities, games and team challenges.

Active holiday camps are more than a way of burning off energy. They can support children’s mental wellbeing, help them make new friends, and even spark a lifelong love for the outdoors. Whether it’s boosting their confidence through new experiences or simply encouraging healthy habits, the benefits go far beyond the holiday itself.

Improved physical health
Activities like sports, swimming, hiking and obstacle courses help improve cardiovascular fitness, strength, flexibility and coordination. Regular physical activity can also boost the immune system and supports healthy growth and development. With a range of activities throughout the day to participate in, an active holiday camp will help children get moving and trying new activities can inspire a love and help exercise to become a regular occurrence.

Being on camp for a day, a week or the whole summer can help to create a lifestyle change. An active camp creates a fun atmosphere and where it’s normalised for children to be on the move. Enjoying themselves in this environment means it is likely children will want to carry it on outside of the camp, creating a new norm. By being outside and in the natural environment, whether that is whilst on a multi-activity camp, on school playing fields or a sports specific camp on astro turf or specialist surfaces or survival camps in the woods all these will help children appreciate the outdoors, fresh air and a gain a respect for nature.

Boosts mental wellbeing
Being outdoors and engaged in fun physical activities releases endorphins that help elevate mood and reduce stress and anxieties. The regular exercise children get in an active holiday camp can also boost their mood and improve their focus. Being active will also naturally tire a child out, meaning they will come home from camp and have a deeper and more restful night’s sleep, which will help improve their overall mood and wellbeing.

Active camps also help to develop children’s social skills. They are a great place to meet new people and make new friends. Many activities on an active camp involve an element of teamwork, bringing all kinds of children together to work towards a common goal. Children learn to communicate, co-operate, resolve conflicts and support one another – skills that are essential in all areas of life. The shared experiences create lasting memories and bonds.

Active camps also help build confidence and independence. Trying new activities with new friends and succeeding while being supported by new peers helps build confidence and self-esteem. Whether it’s on the football pitch or in the art room, being praised and supported by others leaves children with a sense of achievement. Being in a new environment without their parents, with unfamiliar faces and possibly unfamiliar surroundings, encourages children to step out of their comfort zone. They learn to adapt to new instructors/teachers and navigate new conversations and friendships on their own, giving them invaluable life lessons and skills.

Reduces screen time
Holiday camps, and active camps especially, can be a great way to pry digital devices from children’s hands. The limited screen time creates a great opportunity to reconnect with play, the outdoors and simple childhood fun! With all the activities on offer and action-packed timetables, children’s devices will be a distant memory. Reduced screen time increases focus, creativity and emotional regulation, on and off of camp.

Promotes learning through play
Many activity camps incorporate learning into the timetable, almost like sneaking extra vegetables into dinner by cutting it very fine! This can be through teamwork, creative thinking or STEM. Activities like team-based problem-solving games, treasure hunts and movement-based STEM challenges help children develop critical thinking, communication and collaboration skills. All while staying active, making learning feel exciting and rewarding. Whether they’re figuring out clues in a scavenger hunt or building a structure that can withstand movement, children are developing skills that will benefit them long after the camp day ends.

At Ultimate Activity Camps, children can enjoy a range of over 40 sports, games and craft activities each week, led by inspiring staff in superb facilities – running at 45 locations this summer! For further information about camps near you please visit www.ultimateactivity.co.uk

Jul 01

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A musical childhood

By Iain Boyle Education, Mental health, Music and singing

by Sarah Jones
Director of Prep School Music St Catherine’s

Head of Prep School Music at St Catherine’s, Sarah Jones, explains why she believes that music is such an important part of a primary school education. Music has been deeply woven into human culture for centuries, from the rhythmic beats of ancient drums to the intricate compositions of classical symphonies and the infectious tunes of modern pop.

For children, music is more than just entertainment – it plays a crucial role in their cognitive, social and emotional growth. In primary schools, where young minds are highly receptive, incorporating music into the curriculum provides benefits that extend well beyond the classroom. As education becomes increasingly focused on academic assessments, it is essential to acknowledge the importance of music education and preserve its place as a fundamental part of the primary school experience.

One of the most convincing reasons to incorporate music into primary education is its significant impact on cognitive development. Research consistently shows that music education enhances brain function in ways that boost academic achievement. Children who participate in music learning exhibit improved language skills, better memory retention and enhanced problem-solving abilities. For instance, playing an instrument requires the brain to decode complex symbols and translate them into physical movements, stimulating both the left and right hemispheres, which strengthens neural connections.

Additionally, music education is closely linked to improved maths skills. The rhythmic patterns in music closely align with mathematical concepts like fractions, sequencing and spatial awareness. As children practice these rhythms, they naturally reinforce their understanding of essential mathematical ideas in a fun and intuitive way.

Beyond academic benefits, music plays a significant role in supporting emotional and social development. In the early years of primary school, children are learning to navigate complex emotional landscapes and form social bonds. Music provides a safe and expressive outlet for emotions, allowing children to process feelings that may be difficult to articulate through words alone.

Group musical activities, such as choral singing or instrumental ensemble performances, encourage teamwork and cooperation. In these settings, children learn to listen to each other, maintain rhythm together and contribute to a collective goal. As well as being lots of fun, these experiences foster a sense of belonging and teach essential life skills like empathy, patience and collaboration. For many children, participation in musical activities boosts self-esteem and provides a sense of achievement, especially when they perform in front of an audience.

In an educational system with a focus on standardised testing, there is a risk that creativity might take a backseat. However, creativity is an essential skill for future success, and music education offers an ideal platform for its cultivation. Through music, children are encouraged to explore, experiment, and express their individuality. Whether they are composing original songs, improvising with instruments, or interpreting music in their own unique way, these activities promote creative thinking and innovation.

Moreover, music provides opportunities for cultural awareness and appreciation. Exposure to diverse musical traditions broadens children’s perspectives and helps them develop a deeper understanding of the world. Through music, they learn to value diversity and embrace a global outlook – qualities that are vital in today’s interconnected world.

Music education also plays a key role in developing fine and gross motor skills. For instance, playing an instrument demands precise finger movements, hand-eye coordination, and good timing. Even simple activities like clapping to a beat or dancing to music help improve physical coordination and rhythm. These motor skills are particularly important in the early years when children are honing their physical abilities.

Additionally, music and movement activities contribute to physical wellbeing. Dancing to music provides a fun and engaging form of exercise, helping to counteract sedentary habits and fostering a lifelong enjoyment of movement. This well-rounded approach to education recognises the connection between mind and body, supporting both physical and cognitive growth.

The benefits of music education extend well beyond the primary school years. Early exposure to music often sparks a lifelong passion for the arts, whether as a personal interest or a professional pursuit. Children who engage with music at a young age are more likely to continue enjoying and participating in musical activities throughout their lives.

Additionally, the skills fostered through music – such as discipline, perseverance and the ability to work toward long-term goals – are valuable in many other aspects of life. Learning to play an instrument or master a musical piece requires patience and consistent effort, teaching children the importance of hard work and delayed gratification. These lessons become essential as they grow and encounter new challenges.

Music is a cornerstone of a holistic education. Its benefits extend across cognitive, emotional, social, and physical development, nurturing skills essential for academic achievement and personal growth. In a rapidly evolving world, where creativity and adaptability are highly valued, the significance of music education cannot be overstated. By prioritising music in primary schools, we provide children with the tools they need to succeed while fostering a lifelong passion for learning and self-expression. A musical childhood is not only an educational asset – it is a gift that lasts a lifetime.

St Catherine’s Prep School extends a warm welcome to parents who would like to visit the school. Visit www.stcatherines.info to find out more about upcoming open mornings and arranging a visit.

Mar 26

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Exam stress

By Iain Boyle Education, Mental health

by Edmond Chan
Childline Practitioner

As we begin to welcome in the spring, the lighter evenings and warmer weather, as parents of school-age children, we also start to usher in exam season – a period which can bring with it anxiety and worry for parents and children alike.

Older children can sometimes be a bit more accustomed to the process of revision and exam preparation. But for children at primary school about to do their SATs, it’s often the first time they’ve experienced the examination process, and it can feel very daunting.

One 11-year-old girl* who contacted Childline told counsellors: “I’m stressing out about taking my SATs. It’s a lot of pressure and I worry I’ll be in the bottom set. My older siblings didn’t have to take them because of COVID. I feel like nobody understands or listens to me.”

Exams can be extremely stressful for children and cause them a lot of worry and anxiety. But there are some simple things you can do to support them and help them prepare.

Before the exam, you can help them take control by designing a revision plan together and building time for relaxation into it. If you’re not sure where to start, the BBC Bitesize revision planner can help you: www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/articles/zn3497h

It’s important to remove any distractions so they can focus on their revision. Make sure they put their phone away and turn off the TV during their revision sessions to aid their concentration. You could even offer screen-time as a reward for revision time.

A good night’s sleep is really important, so make sure they go to bed early to get some rest the night before an exam. This will help them more than revising all night. And don’t forget to set your alarm to get them up and ready for school in plenty of time.

On the day of the exam, it can help to try and stay positive. Remind them all they can do is try their best. If they’re worried, they could try watching some funny clips on YouTube – laughing could help them feel less stressed.

They might say they don’t feel like eating, but ensuring they eat a good breakfast before they leave the house will help them feel energised and improve their focus. Drinking lots of water to stay hydrated is vital too, and if they start to feel stressed or anxious, suggest they try taking deep, slow, calming breaths in through their nose and out through their mouth.

During the exam it’s important they read the instructions on the paper before they start and ask if they’re not sure about anything. Remind them to take a moment to read the question and a few seconds to breathe before they start writing anything, to help them gather their thoughts.

If there’s a choice of questions, it might be best to start on the ones they know they can answer best, leaving some time to read over the answers at the end. If they get stuck, suggest they move onto a question that they can answer better.

When a child is worried, one of the most important things they can do is to talk about how they’re feeling. Talking can reduce the pressure and help them to feel more in control, so remind them they can come and talk to you about any worries they have. But if they find that difficult, they can talk to Childline, free and in confidence.

Children and young people can call 0800 1111 to speak to a trained volunteer counsellor over the phone or visit www.childline.org.uk to chat online using our 1-2-1 service.

You can find lots more advice and practical tips on the Childline website www.childline.org.uk/info-advice/school-college-and-work.

*Snapshots are based on real Childline service users but are not necessarily direct quotes. All names and potentially identifying details have been changed to protect the identity of the child or young person involved.

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