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Mar 02
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Family mediation and child‑focused parenting through separation

By children's health, Finance, Legal, Mental health
by Yulia Osudina
YO Mediation

Separation or divorce is a significant transition for any family. When children are involved, parents often experience heightened concern about how decisions relating to living arrangements, schooling, routines and communication will affect their children’s emotional wellbeing. Research and best practice consistently show that children cope best with separation when parents manage conflict constructively and keep children’s needs at the centre of all decision‑making.

Family mediation provides a confidential and structured environment in which parents are supported to reach practical, child‑focused solutions tailored to their family. Mediation encourages cooperation, respectful communication and problem-solving.

What is family mediation?
Family mediation is a facilitated process in which an impartial, trained mediator helps parents communicate more effectively, explore options and reach mutually acceptable agreements. Rather than focusing on blame or past conflict, mediation looks forward, helping parents plan for their children’s future in a way that minimises stress and disruption.

Mediation can address a wide range of issues, including financial matters and arrangements for children. In this article however, the focus is on child arrangements mediation. This can support parents in resolving disagreements about where their children live and spend time – which school they attend, term-time routines and holiday planning, special occasions such as Christmas and New Year’s, grandparents’ visits, religious upbringing and arrangements that take account of special educational needs (SEN), as well as many other aspects of family life.

A key principle of mediation is that parents remain in control of decisions affecting their children. The mediator does not take sides or impose outcomes, but supports both parents to focus on what will best support their children’s stability, security and emotional development.

A child‑focused approach to mediation
While separation ends an adult relationship, it does not end parenting. As such, mediation can help parents to shift from a couple‑focused mindset to a co‑parenting one.

A child‑focused mediation process helps parents to:
• Consider decisions from the child’s perspective rather than through parental conflict.
• Recognise how ongoing disputes can affect children emotionally and behaviourally.
• Develop arrangements that promote consistency, reassurance and strong relationships with both parents where it is safe to do so.
• Communicate in ways that reduce tension and model positive behaviour for children.

Mediators support parents to keep discussions centred on children’s day‑to‑day experiences, such as routines, schooling, holidays, communication and transitions between homes. This practical focus helps reduce emotional escalation and keeps conversations constructive.

When mediation is particularly helpful
Mediation can be especially effective:
• At an early stage of separation, before positions become entrenched.
• When parents wish to avoid the stress, cost and delay of court proceedings.
• Where communication has broken down but both parents remain committed to their children’s wellbeing.
• For families with young children who benefit from predictable routines and low conflict.
• In cases involving children with special educational needs or additional vulnerabilities, where careful planning and cooperation are essential.

Supporting children with Special Educational Needs (SEN)
For families with children who have special educational needs, separation can present additional challenges. These children may rely heavily on routine, consistency and coordinated support across home and school environments.

Mediation provides a structured space for parents to:
• Share information about their child’s needs, support plans and professional input.
• Discuss how routines, therapies and educational arrangements will be managed across two households.
• Agree on communication methods that ensure both parents remain informed
and involved.
• Reduce misunderstandings that can arise when stress and uncertainty are high.

A mediator with experience in SEN matters can help parents focus on practical, realistic arrangements that prioritise the child’s wellbeing while recognising each parent’s capacity and circumstances.

Child‑inclusive mediation
In some cases, and where appropriate, mediation can include the child’s voice. Child‑inclusive mediation is usually suitable for children aged around ten and over, depending on their maturity and circumstances. This approach allows children to speak privately with a specially trained professional, ensuring their views are heard without placing responsibility on them for decision‑making.

The purpose is not for children to choose outcomes, but to give parents insight into how their child is experiencing the separation. For younger children, mediation remains parent‑focused, with decisions guided by professional understanding of children’s developmental needs.

The benefits of early, child‑focused mediation
Engaging in mediation at an early stage can have lasting benefits for the whole family:
• Reduced conflict and improved communication between parents.
• Faster, more flexible resolutions than court‑based processes.
• Tailored arrangements that reflect the unique needs of each child.
• Greater emotional security for children through consistent, cooperative parenting.
• A stronger foundation for long‑term co‑parenting.

Preparing for mediation
Parents can help mediation be as effective as possible by:
• Approaching the process with a willingness to listen and reflect.
• Keeping the focus on their children’s needs rather than past grievances.
• Gathering relevant information, such as school reports or support plans.
• Being open to compromise in the interests of stability and reassurance for their children.

Family mediation, guided by child‑focused principles such as those set out by Resolution’s ‘Parenting Through Separation’ framework, offers parents a constructive way forward during an emotionally challenging time. By prioritising children’s needs, reducing conflict and encouraging cooperative co‑parenting, mediation supports families in creating arrangements that promote security, resilience and positive long‑term outcomes for children.

For parents seeking a calm, respectful and child‑centred approach to separation, mediation provides a valuable alternative to adversarial processes and helps lay the groundwork for healthy parenting relationships in the years ahead.

For further information on how Yulia Osudina at YO Mediation can help you in your own circumstances please visit www.yomediation.com or email yulia@yomediation.com

Nov 10
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growing confidence in children

Growing confidence

By Education, Mental health, Relationships, Wellbeing

Why many children are struggling and how parents can help

Confidence is often described as the quiet superpower that shapes a child’s life, influencing everything from their mental wellbeing to their willingness to try new things and build friendships. Yet, recent research shows that a significant number of children in the UK are facing a confidence crisis – one that could have lasting impacts if left unaddressed.

The Listen Up Report from youth and education agency Hark reveals that up to one in three adolescents nationwide experience little or no confidence. While the report focuses on young people aged 11 to 18, many of the challenges it highlights are rooted in earlier childhood and can begin to take shape well before secondary school.

What is the ‘confidence crisis’?
Children with low confidence often struggle to speak up in class, join social activities or express their opinions. This ‘unheard third’ – roughly 10 children in every classroom – may find it difficult to participate fully in school and social life, which can hold them back academically and emotionally.

The report found that at age 11, when children start secondary school, around 29% already feel little or no confidence. This figure rises as children face new pressures and transitions during adolescence. Although confidence can improve with time, early experiences are crucial in shaping a child’s self-belief and future aspirations.

What’s behind the decline in confidence?
The factors contributing to this crisis are complex and interconnected:
• The lingering impact of Covid-19
School closures and social isolation disrupted normal childhood development, making it harder for children to build social skills and resilience.
• Social media and online pressure
Even younger children are exposed to the pressures of maintaining an ‘online persona’ through siblings or early access to technology. The fear of judgment and comparison can chip away at their self-esteem.
• Fear of judgment and lack of emotional safety
Many children, particularly girls and those from minority groups, feel they cannot speak openly without being misunderstood or judged harshly. This fear stifles their confidence to express themselves authentically.

Without safe spaces at school or home to discuss feelings and experiences, children may internalise their doubts, leading to a downward spiral of invisibility and self-doubt.

Why early confidence matters
Confidence in childhood is not just about feeling good in the moment – it shapes how children engage with learning, develop friendships and approach challenges.

Children who lack confidence are less likely to participate in class, join clubs or speak up, which means they miss out on valuable opportunities to grow and be seen.

This invisibility can become a self-perpetuating cycle – the quieter a child is, the less support and encouragement they receive, further eroding their confidence and narrowing their future possibilities.

What can parents do?
The good news is that confidence is not a fixed trait – it can be nurtured and developed with the right support and environment. Parents play a vital role in helping their children build belief in themselves. Here are some practical ways to help:
• Create safe spaces for expression
Encourage your child to share their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment.
Listen actively and validate their experiences.
• Celebrate small successes
Recognise and praise your child’s efforts and achievements, no matter how small. This builds a sense of accomplishment and motivation.
• Model confidence and positive self-talk
Children learn by example. Show them how to approach challenges with a growth mindset and kindness towards themselves.
• Support social skills development
Encourage play dates, group activities and social interactions that help your child practise communication and cooperation.
• Be patient and persistent
Building confidence is a journey, not a race. Consistent encouragement and under-standing make a big difference over time.

A call to listen louder
Every child’s confidence journey is unique, and it’s vital that parents, teachers and communities work together to see, hear and value each child. The Listen Up Report reminds us that confidence gaps are not personality flaws but broken social patterns that can be changed.

By fostering environments where quieter voices can thrive and teaching children to believe in themselves, we can help them step through doors they might not even see are open to them.

This article is based on insights from Hark’s Listen Up Report 2025, a comprehensive study on youth confidence in the UK. Hark is a London-based education and youth agency with over 30 years’ experience supporting young people and organisations to build confidence and skills. For further details or to read the full report please visit www.harklondon.com/listen-up/

 

Nov 05
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performing arts

Beyond the curtain: The academic benefits of performing arts education

By dance & Art, fun for children, Mental health, Panto, panto
by Theatretrain
www.theatretrain.co.uk

Performing arts education is more than a creative outlet. Studies show that involvement in theatre, dance and music leads to better memory, concentration, literacy and overall school performance.

While the spotlight shines on stage, the benefits of performing arts reach far into the classroom. Far from being a distraction from academics, the arts actually enhance learning – in measurable and meaningful ways.

Boosting brain function
Neuroscience confirms that engaging in music, dance and drama activates multiple areas of the brain. These areas are also responsible for:
• Memory
• Language processing
• Concentration
• Emotional regulation

This means children involved in the arts are often better equipped to handle academic challenges.

Improved literacy and language skills
In drama, students constantly read, write, speak and listen. These tasks build:
• Vocabulary
• Reading fluency
• Comprehension
• Verbal confidence

Performers must understand tone, intent and narrative structure – all of which transfer to English and literacy studies.

Enhanced memory and focus
Memorising lines and choreography requires mental discipline. Students develop tools for:
• Retaining information
• Sustained concentration
• Pattern recognition

These skills apply directly to learning maths, science and other subjects.

Creative thinking in problem solving
Performing arts encourage ‘thinking outside the box’. Children learn to:
• Approach challenges creatively
• Link ideas across subjects
• Use storytelling to understand complex ideas

Emotional regulation and academic confidence
Children involved in the arts often:
• Handle stress better
• Express frustration in a healthier way
• Believe more strongly in their own abilities

This emotional resilience supports classroom learning and behaviour.

Team learning in arts and academics
Performing in a group teaches cooperative learning, a key approach in modern classrooms. Students learn to:
• Share responsibility
• Respect diverse ideas
• Learn through doing

What the research says
A report from the Arts Education Partnership found that students involved in the arts consistently outperform their peers in academic subjects and standardised tests.

Famous supporters of arts in education
Actor and singer Julie Andrews said, “I think music and the arts should be a mandatory part of every school day.” Her belief is backed by research showing real academic benefits.

Tips for parents
• Encourage your child’s arts involvement alongside school.
• Highlight the connections between arts and academics.
• Celebrate progress and curiosity, not just grades.

Final thoughts
The arts don’t compete with academics – they complement and enhance them. By engaging in theatre, dance and music, students become more focused, expressive and successful in school.

At Theatretrain, we believe the stage and the classroom go hand in hand. When young people perform, they don’t just entertain – they grow. For further information on Theatretrain please contact Gaynor on 07856 959299 or visit www.theatretrain.co.uk/brighton

Nov 04
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relaxing prengnancy

Nurturing mums-to-be: The gentle benefits of pregnancy massage and holistic care

By beauty, family, Mental health
by Miki Hussein
Sunflower Holistic Massage

Pregnancy is exciting, life-changing and full of joy, but it can also be tiring. A growing bump often brings sore backs, swollen ankles, restless nights and more stress than you’d like. One simple way to ease some of that is with pregnancy massage. It’s gentle, safe, and designed to help you feel comfortable again. If you are expecting, massage can be a wonderful way to take care of yourself. Alongside reflexology and holistic facials, it helps you relax, release tension and feel more connected to your body as it changes.

Why massage helps during pregnancy
Your body is working harder than ever. As your bump grows, your centre of gravity shifts and that can mean discomfort in the lower back, hips and pelvis. A specially trained pregnancy massage therapist will use side-lying positions and supportive pillows so you feel secure. Massage eases tired muscles, improves circulation and can help with swelling in the feet and ankles. Many women also find they sleep better afterwards.

The National Childbirth Trust (NCT) and UK health professionals note that massage can reduce stress, improve posture, ease headaches caused by tension and help with mood. When your body feels more at ease, you’re more likely to rest well and cope better with the day-to-day.

The emotional side of massage
A lovely extra benefit of regular massage sessions during pregnancy or after birth is the chance to talk with someone who understands. A therapist experienced with maternity work has supported many women through the same ups and downs. That safe space to share how you’re feeling can be hugely reassuring. You might discover that the odd sensations, strange twinges or concerns you’ve noticed are all perfectly common. Sometimes just hearing “That’s normal” is enough to put your mind at ease.

Other supportive therapies: reflexology, facials and holistic treatments
Massage isn’t the only option. Reflexology is a gentle therapy using pressure points on the feet that link to different areas of the body. Many mums-to-be find it helps ease backache, nausea or water retention, as well as promoting better sleep.

Holistic facials can also be a treat in pregnancy. Hormonal changes often affect skin, leaving it dry, oily or more sensitive. A pregnancy-safe facial using gentle products soothes, hydrates and gives you a glow without irritation. These treatments are relaxing as well as practical, helping you feel cared for when your body is changing.

Why organic products matter
Your skin is your body’s largest organ, and while there’s no need to worry, it makes sense to choose carefully what you put on it. During pregnancy skin is often more sensitive, so organic products are a great choice. Therapists who use Soil Association certified skincare avoid unnecessary chemicals and synthetic fragrances. It’s about peace of mind, knowing that what’s being massaged into your skin is safe for both you and your bump.

Safety and timing
NHS advice says that massage is generally safe after the first trimester if you’re healthy, but always check with your midwife or GP if you have complications. Some oils aren’t suitable, and positions need adjusting, so it’s important to see a therapist who is trained in maternity work. Reflexology and facials are also safe when carried out by someone experienced in pregnancy care.

After the baby arrives
Massage doesn’t stop being useful once your little one is here. Postnatal massage helps with tired shoulders from feeding, sore backs from carrying and the general exhaustion of those early weeks. It boosts circulation, aids recovery and gives you precious time to recharge.

Reflexology or a calming facial can also be lovely ways to feel balanced again. Having that hour to yourself is more than pampering; it’s an investment in your wellbeing and helps you feel stronger, calmer and ready to enjoy time with your baby.

Putting it all together
Imagine this: you wake up, bump feeling heavy, back sore from sleep. After a pregnancy massage you feel lighter, more mobile, tension lifted from your shoulders. That evening you finally get a deeper sleep. Add in the relaxation of reflexology or the freshness of a holistic facial and the benefits build week by week. Less stress, fewer aches, more comfort and more confidence.

Pregnancy massage and other holistic therapies are not indulgences. They are supportive, practical ways to make life easier and more enjoyable during this special time – and beyond.

Miki is a mum of four and a therapist with over 20 years’ experience. She has treated hundreds of pregnant women, and while she works with all kinds of clients, supporting mums-to-be is what she loves most. Based in Worthing, Miki uses beautiful organic products such as Pink’s Boutique, and also offers reflexology and holistic facials in a calm, caring space. For further information please visit www.sunflowerholisticmassage.com

Nov 02
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resilient child

The role of resilience in learning

By Education, Mental health, numeracy skills, reading, Uncategorized
by Katie Morgan
Head of Pre-Prep, Great Ballard

Helping your child reach their academic potential

Childhood isn’t something to be hurried through or outgrown. It’s something to be treasured, protected and nurtured. Children should have the opportunity to climb trees, sit around campfires and learn what it means to be both independent and part of a community – and this spirit of curiosity and courage is just as important in the classroom as it is outdoors.

When it comes to learning, resilience plays a key role in helping children reach their academic potential. It’s not just about doing well in tests or ticking off tasks, it’s about developing the internal tools to keep going when things get difficult, to bounce back from mistakes and to believe in their ability to grow and improve. Resilient children are not immune to failure, they embrace it. They understand that setbacks are not signs of weakness, but opportunities to learn and adapt. They try, fall short, reassess and try again. And perhaps most importantly, they don’t rely solely on being ‘clever’ or ‘naturally gifted’ at something. Instead, they develop the mindset that effort, persistence and making mistakes are what lead to success.

This shift in thinking is at the heart of Growth Mindset, a concept introduced by psychologist Carol Dweck. Children (and adults) with a Growth Mindset believe that intelligence and ability are not fixed traits but can be developed with effort and time. Contrast that with a Fixed Mindset, where children might say, “I’m not good at maths,” or “I’ll never be picked for the cricket team.” These beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies, halting progress before it even begins. Instead, we can help children shift their internal dialogue to something more empowering: “I can’t do this yet”, “If I keep practising, I’ll get there.” Parents play a critical role in shaping this thinking. Praising effort over outcome: “You worked so hard on that project,” rather than “You’re so smart” reinforces the idea that what matters is the process, not just the result.

This starts early – as toddlers learn to walk they wobble, they fall and they try again, undeterred. We cheer them on with gentle encouragement: “You can do it! Have another go!” In that moment, we instinctively understand that struggling is essential. But as children grow, and academic expectations increase, we sometimes lose sight of that truth. We want to protect them from frustration and disappointment, but in doing so, we risk stealing the very struggle that helps build resilience. Even our well-meaning attempts to comfort can unintentionally undermine a child’s sense of capability. Phrases like “Don’t worry, you don’t need to be good at everything” or “You’ll drop that subject soon anyway” send the message that some things are simply beyond their reach. But what children really need to hear is that persistence matters, that making mistakes is part of the journey and that with effort, they can get better.

One of the most practical things we can do is to help our children set meaningful goals. Not just the daily adult-led ‘to-do list’ goals like finishing homework or tidying their room but the ‘big dream’ goals that come from their own passions and interests. Whether it’s building a LEGO castle, learning a skateboard trick or writing a story, self-directed goals build motivation and show children what it feels like to work towards something that matters to them. Setting goals also taps into how our brains are wired. Every time we reach a milestone, our brains release dopamine (the ‘feel good’ chemical associated with achievement). Even the act of planning toward a goal can boost motivation. Children feel empowered when they take ownership of their aspirations, and that confidence carries over into more challenging areas of learning. When we combine that with a strong sense of perseverance (the ability to keep going despite setbacks), we’re giving our children a powerful foundation.

One effective strategy is to help them build a ‘catalogue of proof’: a mental (or even physical) list of things they’ve overcome. From learning to ride a bike to performing in a play, these small wins show children that they are capable, even when things are hard. Later, when they’re struggling with a spelling test or a tricky bit of maths, they can draw on that evidence: I’ve done hard things before, I can do this too.

Equally important is helping them see their mistakes not as failures, but as part of the process. Talk openly about your own errors and what you’ve learned from them. Instead of focusing solely on results, provide feedback that highlights strategy, effort and progress. Ask open-ended questions: “What did you try?” “What might you do differently next time?” “What worked well?” All of this takes time, patience and consistency. Resilience doesn’t happen overnight, it’s something we nurture over months and years, through small everyday moments. A bedtime chat about what went well today. A word of encouragement when homework feels tough. A quiet moment spent really listening to what’s on their mind, no matter how little it may seem.

It may also help to build habits around gratitude. Research shows that practising gratitude, whether through simple conversations at dinnertime or by journaling, boosts mental wellbeing. A child who regularly reflects on what they’re thankful for is more likely to maintain perspective during difficult moments. Their ‘gratitude bank’ becomes a buffer against life’s inevitable bumps.

Finally, let’s not forget the power of environment and routine. Small acts of ‘situational support’ (laying out clothes the night before, putting their bag by the front door or setting up a dedicated homework space) can reduce stress and build a sense of control and independence.

Helping children become resilient learners isn’t about shielding them from difficulty, it’s about walking alongside them as they navigate it. It’s about fostering curiosity, celebrating effort and creating space for them to struggle, reflect and grow. Because academic potential isn’t just about what a child knows. It’s about how they respond when they don’t know something – yet.

Great Ballard is a small school with big ambitions, providing affordable education from Nursery to GCSE. We believe wellbeing is the foundation that allows the real learning to happen. www.greatballard.co.uk

Nov 01
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smiling girl

Educating the whole child

By Education, Mental health
by Kirsty Keep, Francesca Milling and Matt Thomas
Heads of the Lancing College Preparatory Schools – Lancing Preps Hove & Worthing and Dorset House

Why character matters as much as curriculum

In an age where academic achievement often takes centre stage, it’s easy to overlook the quieter, yet equally vital, aspects of a child’s development. Prep schools are increasingly recognising that success in life is not measured solely by exam results, but by the strength of a child’s character, how they treat others, how they respond to challenges and how they understand themselves.

Character education is not a new concept, but it has taken on renewed importance in recent years. Schools are placing greater emphasis on nurturing values such as kindness, empathy, resilience and integrity. These qualities are not taught in isolation but are embedded in the daily life of most schools – through assemblies, classroom discussions, peer interactions and the way staff model behaviour.

Children thrive in environments where they feel safe, respected and heard. When schools create a culture that values emotional intelligence as much as academic performance, children are more likely to take risks, express themselves and develop a genuine love of learning. They become more confident, more compassionate and better equipped to navigate the complexities of growing up.

One of the most powerful tools in this approach is the development of emotional literacy. Helping children to recognise and regulate their emotions from an early age builds a foundation for lifelong wellbeing. It also fosters empathy. When children understand their own feelings, they are better able to understand the feelings of others.

This is particularly important in the early years, when children are still learning how to navigate social situations and build relationships. Encouraging children to talk about their emotions, reflect on their behaviour and understand the impact of their actions helps them to develop a strong sense of self and a deeper connection to those around them.

Schools that focus on both character education alongside academic achievement often adopt proactive strategies to support emotional development. These may include mindfulness activities, peer mentoring and structured programmes that teach self-regulation and resilience. Such initiatives not only help children manage their emotions but also empower them to ask for help when they need it.

Importantly, this approach to education doesn’t mean lowering academic standards. On the contrary, children who feel emotionally supported are more likely to engage deeply with their learning. They are more resilient in the face of setbacks and more motivated to achieve their personal best. When children are taught to value effort, kindness and curiosity, they become learners who are not only capable but also courageous.

Educating the whole child means recognising that every child is unique, with their own strengths, challenges and potential. It means creating a school environment where values are lived, not just taught. It means preparing children not just for the next stage of their education, but for life.

In a world that is constantly changing, the ability to adapt, empathise and lead with integrity is more important than ever. By placing character at the heart of education, prep schools are helping to shape a generation of young people who will not only succeed academically but also contribute positively to their communities in the future.

The Lancing College family includes its two Prep Schools located in Hove and Worthing, Dorset House School in Pulborough and Little Lancing Day Nursery & Forest School.
www.lancingcollege.co.uk, www.lancingprephove.co.uk, www.lancingprepworthing.co.uk, www.dorsethouseschool.com, www.littlelancing.co.uk

Aug 08
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loving dad

Preparing dads for fatherhood

By family, Mental health, Relationships, Wellbeing
by Gordon Dowall-Potter
MANtenatal

Why support matters more than ever

For many men, becoming a father is one of life’s biggest milestones, and one of its biggest unknowns. While conversations around motherhood are supported by books, classes, apps and appointments, fatherhood is often treated like something that will “come naturally” once the baby arrives.

But here’s the thing: it doesn’t always come naturally. And when men don’t feel prepared, confident or supported, the impact can ripple through their relationship, affect mental health, and family life.

Men want to be involved, but are often left guessing
The idea of dads standing awkwardly in the background while mum does everything is outdated and most modern fathers want to be hands-on from the start. They attend scans, they take paternity leave (when they can), and they’re often just as excited, and nervous, about what lies ahead.

But despite the willingness, many men describe feeling unsure, sidelined or invisible during pregnancy and the early days of parenting. Antenatal services tend to focus on maternal needs (as they should), but that leaves a lot of dads guessing about what their role is and how to prepare.

Antenatal education aimed at men can make a huge difference. It offers emotional insight, relationship tools and practical parenting skills, delivered in a way that speaks to dads directly and honestly.

This is exactly why I set up men’s antenatal classes, to educate, guide and support all dads, no matter their background, relationship status or starting point. Too often, men are expected to simply “know what to do” without ever being shown how. These classes offer a space where dads can ask questions, build confidence, and prepare emotionally, without judgement or jargon.

It’s all part of my personal mission: No Dad Left Behind. Because when we give dads the tools and the time to prepare, they show up for their partner, their baby and themselves. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being present. #BestDadYouCanBe

Mental health: A quiet concern for new dads
Research shows that around 1 in 10 fathers experience postnatal depression, although professionals suggest the real figure may be much higher. Unlike mums, who are routinely screened and encouraged to open up, many men still feel they need to push through alone and in silence.

Some don’t recognise the symptoms, brushing off low mood, irritability or withdrawal as tiredness or stress. Others worry that admitting they’re struggling could be seen as weakness. This silence can lead to emotional distance, tension at home and longer-term mental health issues if not addressed early.

Open, honest support and early intervention is the key – and that starts with normalising the idea that fatherhood can be just as overwhelming for men as it is for women.

The benefits of being prepared
When dads are supported in their transition to fatherhood, everyone wins.

Children benefit from stronger bonds with both parents. Partners feel more supported and less alone. And dads themselves feel more confident, connected and capable. Even knowing how to be helpful – in the birthing room, what to say, how to advocate, what not to take personally, can make a huge difference to how included and empowered a father feels.

Being a dad today is about more than providing. It’s about showing up emotionally, being present and being part of a team. But none of that happens by accident, it takes preparation, and it takes space for men to learn and grow without judgement.

Where we go from here
If you’re a mum-to-be reading this, one of the most powerful things you can do is involve your partner in the preparation process. Whether it’s recommending a class, sharing resources or even gifting him a course designed for dads, it sends a clear message: we’re in this together. It can help him feel included, informed and more confident about what’s to come.

And if you’re a dad reading this, well, you’ve already taken an important step. Just by engaging with this conversation, you’re showing up. You’re seeking support, wanting to understand more and laying the groundwork for being the kind of parent you want to be.

The truth is, fatherhood isn’t something you’re expected to just “know” how to do. Like anything else, it takes learning, patience and support. That support is out there and we’re here to help you find it.

Parenting is a shared experience. When both parents feel informed and supported, families are stronger, relationships are healthier and children thrive.

No dad should have to navigate this alone and with the right support, no dad has to.

Gordon Dowall-Potter is the founder of the multi award-winning MANtenatal programme – the UK’s leading antenatal education platform designed specifically for dads-to-be. Gordon works alongside NHS services and perinatal professionals to improve education, awareness and emotional support for men as they prepare for fatherhood. Learn more at www.mantenatal.com

Jul 04
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ballet dancer

Evolving the way dance is taught

By dance & Art, Exercise, fun for children, Mental health, Playing
by Jess Child
JC Dance

The importance of a positive safe and inclusive learning environment for children.

Dance classes, especially ballet classes, are notoriously known for their strict nature. Often putting the mental and physical wellbeing of students at risk. It is time to switch this narrative and normalise a gentler approach which supports students rather than tearing them down. This looks like an emphasis on wellbeing, inclusivity, positive reinforcement, listening to the body and the understanding of injury prevention.

Emphasis on wellbeing means treating dance students as human first, and dancers second. Mental health must be a priority in the dance space. All humans are different so why does this have to change in a dance class? Students will all have different needs and experience classes in different ways. Teachers who model empathy, respect and have open communication with their students, create a safe space where children feel valued, supported and free to explore movement without fear of judgment. This encourages individuality of each student, nurtures children’s confidence, and empowers them to express and be themselves. Dance should be a source of happiness and connection, not pressure.

Inclusivity in dance classes is essential for creating a space where every child can feel seen. Dance should reflect the diverse world we live in, welcoming all body types, abilities and ways of thinking. Recognising and supporting neurodivergent students, for example those with autism, ADHD or other cognitive differences, means adapting teaching styles, using clear communication, and stepping away from the rigidity of ballet training.

Using different learning styles and pathways allows children to be themselves and thrive. It is important to challenge the outdated stereotypes of how a dancer ‘should look’. Using an approach of body neutrality in dance classes, focusing on what our bodies can do, how they move and how that makes them feel. Taking the focus away from how our bodies look. In a society already rampant with diet culture, dancers are even more vulnerable, often in front of mirrors and looking towards a stereotypical ‘ballet body’ as a goal. If a child has a body and is doing ballet, they have a ballet body! It’s a teacher’s job to protect their students from these toxic ideals.

Teaching children to listen to their bodies in a dance setting, is crucial for safety and injury prevention. Often young dancers’ bodies are pushed beyond their limits creating lifelong problems. We have to respect our body’s limits and remember young bodies are growing and changing all the time, so these limits within each individual student will also change. Encouraging body awareness will help young dancers recognise pain and fatigue early. This will reduce the likelihood of injury and create lifelong healthy movement patterns. The teacher’s job is to teach students correct technique so as to not put any added strain onto their growing joints and muscles. It’s teaching children it’s OK to rest, its OK to listen to your body’s internal cues. Empowering students to respect and have autonomy over their own bodies.

At the heart of evolving dance education is the importance of a positive and supportive learning environment. For children, positive reinforcement and offering corrections and constructive criticism from a place of kindness, builds confidence, motivation and resilience. As a teacher it’s important to lead a class from this place. The way a teacher speaks to their students, directly reflects how the students speak to themselves – teaching from a place of highlighting progress rather than focusing solely on mistakes will help children feel safe and valued. They will be more open to exploring what their bodies can do and take risks without fear of failure and judgment, therefore able enjoy the process of improving technique, nurturing a lifelong love for dance.

Jess Child runs IC Dance – dancing together, growing together. Where every child is welcomed, valued and supported in their movement journey.

www.jcdanceclasses.com  07305 228770  info@jcdanceclasses.com @jess_jcdanceyoga

Jul 03
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Children need more art

By dance & Art, Education, fun for children, Mental health, play, Playing, Wellbeing
by Sebastian Dewing
Founder Artroom Brighton

Nurturing creativity beyond the classroom

Back at primary school, in the 1980s, I had a weekly art lesson in an art room, a pottery class in a pottery studio and a needlework lesson in a fabrics room. Whereas I appreciate, this was not necessarily on offer in every school, it certainly wasn’t radical.

Fast forward 40 years and the demotion of art from a core subject to a smattering of token options that children dip in and out of, is astounding. If my daughter is lucky enough to get an art lesson, it is usually in conjuction with a topic lesson – like lets draw ‘a Viking long boat’ or design a ‘save the rain forests’ poster. There is still value in this but it is rarely art for art’s sake. Our children are being disadvantaged by the requirements of national educational targets, which hugely favour ‘core’ subjects, meaning art is now undervalued in primary schools. It is the participation in art, rather than the ability and skill level of the child, that is fundamentally important here.

In a world of innovation, it couldn’t be a more crucial time to use art to empower our young people, as employers place a huge emphasis on creative thinking, in addition to personal skills such as confidence, effective decision-making and originality. Such skills are bolstered by studying the arts and being able to think outside of the box, innovate and be creative is something that seems lacking in many young people entering the workforce.

Sir Ken Robinson in his TED Talk, Do Schools Kill Creativity, said that: “Creativity is now as important in education as literacy – we don’t grow into creativity; we grow out of it. Or rather, we get educated out of it… Our education system has mined our minds in the way that we strip-mine the earth: for a particular commodity. And for the future, it won’t serve us. We have to rethink the fundamental principles on which we’re educating our children.”

The Digital, Culture, Media and Sport Committee (2019) said in their report Changing Lives: “We are deeply concerned by the evidence we received around the downgrading of arts subjects in schools, with all the consequent implications for children’s development, wellbeing, experiences, careers and, ultimately, life chances.”

While schools work really hard to deliver a broad curriculum, the time and resources available for creative subjects, such as art, are frequently limited or sidelined. Yet, for many children, art isn’t just a subject – it’s a language, an outlet and a way to connect with themselves and the world around them.

Art workshops can offer a space where that creative expression can truly flourish. Unlike the school environment, where outcomes and assessments can sometimes overshadow the process, workshops are structured around exploration and fun. They allow children to use new materials, think visually and build confidence in their own ideas – all in a relaxed and supportive setting.

During the long summer break, when routines shift and screen time can easily dominate, art workshops can provide children with meaningful, hands-on experiences. It’s not just about keeping them busy – it’s about giving them the tools and space to grow, create and have fun.

For parents looking to support their child’s artistic interests beyond the classroom, workshops can be an ideal stepping stone. They bridge the gap between what schools can offer and what children truly need to thrive as young creatives.

At Artroom Brighton, we truly and firmly believe that art has the power to transform and nurture the lives of young people – we’ve seen it happen many, many times.
In the current climate, it’s no wonder that more and more parents are choosing to send their children to our classes. Unlock YOUR child’s creative potential and book them in for a course at our studio. Visit www.arrtroombrighton

Jul 03
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Nurturing creativity

By Early Years, environment, Forest School, Green, Mental health
by Karen Borley
Senior Education Advisor, N Family Club

The magic of the atelier and self-expression in the Early Years

In their early years, children establish the foundations of how they view the world, relate to others and express themselves. One way to support this development is through the use of an atelier, which is a dedicated space for self-expression. Inspired by the Reggio Emilia approach to early childhood education, the atelier is a vibrant, ever-evolving environment where children of all ages can make sense of their world through art, play and sensory discovery.

The atelier concept comes from the Reggio Emilia approach, a renowned educational philosophy that places high value on children’s natural creativity. Reggio educators refer to the variety of ways that children interpret the world as the ‘hundred languages of children’ with the environment as the ‘third teacher’. Aligning with the Early Years Foundation Stage’s (EYFS) Expressive Arts and Design area, an atelier can facilitate the ‘hundred languages’ through 2D and 3D art, clay modelling, transient art, photography, music and sound, amongst other experiences. Children are free to experiment, to combine different mediums, to revisit ideas and to create without the pressure of a ‘right’ answer. Essentially, the journey matters as much as the end result.

When set up thoughtfully, as a dedicated room or as a part of the main family room, the atelier should invite exploration, curiosity and wonder in children of all ages. Experiences and materials can be adapted to suit a child’s stage of development – whether it’s a toddler squishing clay between their fingers or a preschooler constructing a 3D sculpture with the same materials, the atelier should welcome all forms of expression and creativity. For babies, an atelier experience might be about sensory exploration – watching light and shadow, listening to soft music or touching different textures. For toddlers, it could be about mark-making, experimenting with colour, or stacking and building. Older children may work on more complex projects involving design, sculpture and collaboration. Every child has the opportunity to develop confidence in their ideas, to try new techniques, and to build something uniquely theirs.

In the atelier, children can be introduced to a diverse range of artists whose work sparks curiosity and wonder. Artists such as Joan Miró, Jackson Pollock, Henry Moore and Yayoi Kusama can be explored. For example, a child might respond to Kusama’s dots with their own vibrant pattern work. These experiences help children see themselves as artists, too. They learn that art is not about perfection but about expression – finding their voice, rhythm and mark in the world.

The atelier is also a space for project work – an opportunity for deeper, shared discovery. Children can return to their creations over days or even weeks, adding layers of thought, materials and meaning. This ongoing process demonstrates to children that their ideas matter and deserve both time and attention. Educators should play a key role here, introducing new materials and techniques, asking thoughtful questions and helping children to connect their experiences to broader ideas. Older children can be provided with the opportunity to collaborate with one another by discussing plans and building together, and these early experiences of teamwork and communication lay strong foundations for emotional and social development.

An important aspect of the atelier approach is documentation. Children’s creations should not just be displayed, but also celebrated. Photos, notes and collections of work allow children to revisit past experiences, reflect on their process and share their stories with peers and their families, supporting a sense of ownership and pride. By giving children the freedom and tools to express themselves, we help nurture confident thinkers, communicators and lifelong learners. In the safe, inspiring space of the atelier, each child is invited to tell their story in their own unique way. For families, knowing that such a space exists in their child’s nursery can offer reassurance that their child is being seen, heard and valued every day.

Founded in 2017, N Family Club set out to rethink Early Years education – developing a progressive curriculum, building a sector-leading team culture, and a world class service that adds real value for families. A proud B Corp, N Family Club were rated the highest quality nursery group in the UK by Nursery World in 2022 & 2023 and were accredited as a Great Place to Work in 2024. www.nfamilyclub.com

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