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Nov 03
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Brighton & Hove launches Mockingbird Project to transform foster care

By family, Fostering and adoption

Brighton & Hove City Council is proud to be part of a growing, national movement to reimagine foster care through the Mockingbird Family Model – a pioneering approach that strengthens relationships and builds lasting support networks for foster families. In March 2025, the city launched its first Mockingbird constellation, and following its early success, a second constellation was launched in August 2025.

This innovative model, developed by The Fostering Network, is designed to create an extended family structure around foster carers and the children they care for. It’s a new way of fostering – one that focuses on connection, community and consistency.

What is the Mockingbird Model?
At the heart of the Mockingbird programme is the idea of a constellation – a group of up to 10 fostering households that are supported by a central hub home carer. This experienced foster carer provides practical and emotional support, regular social activities and short-break care to the families in their constellation.

The model mirrors the natural support systems many families rely on – grandparents, aunts, uncles and close friends – and helps foster carers feel less isolated and more resilient. It also offers children and young people a greater sense of belonging and stability.

According to The Fostering Network, the Mockingbird programme has been shown to strengthen relationships between carers, children and professionals.

A strong start in Brighton & Hove
Brighton & Hove’s first constellation, launched in March 2025, has already begun to make a meaningful impact.

“It’s been amazing to see how quickly the families have bonded,” said one hub home carer. “We’ve created a space where carers feel supported and children feel like they’re part of something bigger.”

Another foster carer in the constellation shared: “Being part of Mockingbird has made such a difference. It’s reassuring to know there’s someone I can call who understands what I’m going through – and the kids love the social events!”

The constellation has hosted regular meet-ups, shared meals, and even a group weekend camping trip – all designed to build trust and connection among the families.

Expanding the constellation
Following the success of the first constellation, Brighton & Hove launched its second constellation in August 2025. This expansion reflects the council’s commitment to improving outcomes for children in care and supporting the incredible people who open their homes and hearts to them.

“We’re thrilled to be growing the Mockingbird programme in Brighton & Hove,” said a spokesperson from the fostering team. “It’s a powerful way to build community and ensure our foster carers and children feel truly supported.”

The second constellation will follow the same model, with a dedicated hub home carer at its centre and a focus on building strong, lasting relationships.

Why Mockingbird matters
Foster care can be incredibly rewarding, but it also comes with challenges. The Mockingbird model addresses these challenges head-on by creating a network of support that’s always there.

The benefits are wide-reaching:
• For children and young people, it offers greater stability, a sense of belonging and opportunities to build trusted relationships with adults and peers.
• For foster carers, it provides emotional support, practical help and a sense of community.
• For local authorities, it improves outcomes for children in care.

The Fostering Network’s evaluation of the programme has shown that Mockingbird constellations lead to improved wellbeing for both carers and children, better communication with professionals and a stronger sense of community.

Looking ahead
Brighton & Hove’s fostering team is excited about the future of the Mockingbird project and is actively working to expand the model further in the coming years.

“This is just the beginning,” said a team member. “We’re already seeing the difference Mockingbird can make, and we’re committed to growing the programme so more families can benefit.”

If you’ve ever considered fostering – or just want to learn more – now is a great time to explore the possibilities. Brighton & Hove’s fostering team runs regular online information sessions, where you can hear from real foster carers, ask questions, and find out how fostering could fit into your life.

Email fosteringrecruitment@brighton-hove.gov.uk to arrange a call or scan the QR code to visit www.brighton-hove.gov.uk/foster

Nov 02
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Family holiday planner

Travelling during school holidays: What parents need to know before booking

By family, Food & Eating, fun for children, Holiday, Holiday camps
by Adry Capodanno
The Holiday Fixer

The turn of the year often sparks thoughts of the next family escape. As winter sets in, many parents across Surrey begin looking ahead to February half-term, Easter and summer holidays – chasing sunshine, child-friendly hotels and flight times that don’t mean dragging little ones to the airport at 2am. It should be exciting, yet the sheer number of options can feel overwhelming. Rising prices and limited availability don’t help either.

The encouraging news? With a little foresight – and a clear idea of your family’s priorities – planning can feel much smoother, and the end result far more rewarding. Here are some of the most common stumbling blocks when booking school holiday trips, and how to avoid them.

Start with what matters most
One of the easiest traps is trying to tick every box: all-inclusive for convenience, walking distance to a pretty town, short flights, endless activities and total peace and quiet.

The reality is that no trip can offer everything, particularly on a budget. The happiest holidays often come when parents decide what matters most, and allow a little flexibility elsewhere. For some, that might mean a resort just outside town with great facilities. For others, it could mean skipping all-inclusive dining to enjoy local restaurants.

Being clear on your top priorities usually leads to better choices and a more enjoyable trip overall.

Secure the right space early
Hotels may have plenty of rooms, but only a handful are truly designed for families – interconnecting spaces for teens, or layouts that let younger children sleep while parents relax nearby. The same goes for those dream villas with the perfect pool and just the right number of bedrooms. Unsurprisingly, these are always the first to go, and once they’re booked, they’re gone.

Planning ahead gives you more choice and the best chance of securing a setup that truly works for your family.

Rethink awkward flight times
Those crack-of-dawn departures may look tempting, especially if they save money. In practise, they often set the wrong tone for the trip.

Waking children in the early hours, or hanging around after an inconvenient checkout, isn’t the best start.

It’s worth weighing up whether the savings – or the novelty of a far-flung destination – outweigh the extra tiredness. Often, a well-timed flight means more time enjoying your holiday and less time catching up on sleep!

Don’t rely on other people’s ‘perfect’ choice
It’s natural to ask friends for recommendations – perhaps a neighbour swears by their favourite spot in Spain. While helpful, what delights one family may frustrate another. A long transfer can be fine with older children but draining with toddlers. Some youngsters thrive in kids’ clubs, while others prefer to be with parents.

The key is not to follow trends, but to think honestly about what your own family enjoys and what you need from this particular holiday. That makes sorting through the noise much simpler.

Know when to ask for expert advice
Planning your own flights, hotels and activities can feel like part of the adventure. But it’s worth knowing when expert guidance can make a difference. Booking elements separately doesn’t offer the same financial protection if flights are delayed or cancelled, and sometimes a hotel looks far better online than it does in person.

Adventure and reassurance don’t have to be opposites. More parents are now choosing holidays that combine exciting experiences – from safaris to cultural tours – with the security of a protected bespoke package. In the end, it’s about recognising when advice can save you time, money and stress.

Why planning ahead helps
With school holiday dates fixed, demand always outstrips supply. The most suitable rooms, convenient flights and well-located resorts are snapped up quickly. Planning ahead not only increases choice but can also mean better value.

Families who organise trips earlier tend to enjoy a calmer lead-up and fewer last-minute compromises. A little forward thinking really does make all the difference.

Family holidays are more than just time away – they’re rare chances to pause, connect and make memories together.

Whether it’s securing the right room, steering clear of awkward flight times, or being realistic about your wishlist, a thoughtful approach goes a long way. And with the growing trend towards family bespoke travel, many parents are seeking holidays designed around their needs rather than one-size-fits-all solutions.

So, as the next school holidays approach, perhaps the best gift you can give your family this year is something money can’t buy at the last minute: a little extra planning.

Adry at the Holiday Fixer specialises in expert, high-quality, bespoke travel itineraries worldwide, with a focus on family holidays and stress- free, parent-to-parent service. Your next adventure is just a chat away! Contact Adry at Adry@theholidayfxer.com or 07583581042 for a free consultation.

Nov 01
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Want flexibility, income and more travel?

By environment, family, Finance, Holiday, Holiday camps
by Emma Chessell
& Little Suitcases

Here’s how mums are doing it!

For many mums, balancing family life with professional aspirations can feel like walking a tightrope. The demands of parenting, household responsibilities and personal goals often leave little room for career growth or financial independence. Traditional 9-to-5 jobs with rigid schedules rarely provide the flexibility required to juggle all these roles effectively.

But there’s a growing movement of mums around the world finding a better way: becoming independent travel agents. This career path offers a unique combination of flexibility, income and the opportunity to travel more, all while allowing mums to design a life that works around their family, not the other way around.

Flexibility that fits your life
One of the biggest advantages of becoming an independent travel agent is the ability to create a schedule that aligns with family priorities. School runs, playdates, extracurricular activities and family milestones no longer have to conflict with your work commitments. Whether you choose to work in the mornings while the children are at school, after bedtime or during pockets of downtime throughout the day, your business operates on your terms. This freedom not only reduces stress but allows mums to stay fully present in their children’s lives while still pursuing a rewarding career.

Flexibility also extends to the location of your work. With modern technology, you can run your business from the comfort of your home, a favourite café or even while on holiday. This level of mobility gives mums the freedom to integrate work seamlessly into their lifestyle, without being tied to an office or a fixed location. The ability to work from anywhere also opens doors for families who love to travel, combining professional and personal adventures into one fulfilling lifestyle.

No experience needed
You don’t need a background in travel, hospitality or sales to start. Most agencies provide comprehensive training, mentorship and ongoing support to guide you through every step of the process. Your passion for travel and helping others plan unforgettable experiences is far more important than prior experience. This accessibility makes becoming a travel agent a realistic option for stay-at-home mums, those returning to the workforce or anyone looking to explore a flexible, meaningful career.

The learning curve is manageable and the skills you gain along the way, such as customer service, marketing and organisation, are valuable both personally and professionally. Many mums discover that as they grow their businesses, they develop confidence and expertise they never imagined they could achieve while balancing family life.

Earn income on your terms
Financial flexibility is another key benefit. Independent travel agents can start part-time and gradually expand their business as they feel comfortable. Whether you aim to supplement the household income or develop a full-time business, the pace is yours to set. Some mums use the income to fund family holidays, household expenses or personal projects, while others grow their business into a fully sustainable career that provides financial independence.

Unlike traditional jobs where income is fixed and dependent on hours worked, being an independent travel agent allows you to scale your earnings according to your efforts and goals. The combination of flexibility and potential income makes this career an appealing option for mums who want to contribute financially without sacrificing family time.

Travel smarter and more often
A unique perk of being a travel agent is the access to exclusive discounts and insider deals. This means you can save on your own family holidays while also taking advantage of opportunities to travel more frequently. Many mums find that this not only makes travel more affordable but also inspires them to explore destinations they might never have considered otherwise.

Travelling smarter becomes a lifestyle. By understanding how to access the best deals, optimise itineraries and plan memorable experiences, travel agents gain a skill set that benefits both their personal and professional lives. Sharing this knowledge with clients allows you to build trust and create meaningful experiences, while also enriching your own family adventures.

Building a supportive community
Another often-overlooked benefit is the community. Many travel agents join networks of like-minded mums who are balancing business and family life. These communities provide guidance, encouragement and inspiration, creating a collaborative environment where women lift each other up. From sharing tips on time management to celebrating milestones, the support system is invaluable.

Being part of a community of women empowering women enhances both personal and professional growth. It fosters motivation, accountability and a sense of belonging, which can be particularly rewarding for mums who may have felt isolated while juggling family responsibilities and career aspirations.

A career that works around your family
Ultimately, becoming an independent travel agent is about reclaiming control over your life. Instead of fitting family life around a rigid career, you create a business that works for your schedule, your family and your passions. The combination of flexibility, income potential, travel perks and supportive community means that many mums are not only earning money but also living a lifestyle that aligns with their values.

Mums around the world are proving that it is possible to have it all: a fulfilling career, time with family and the freedom to explore new destinations. The journey doesn’t require prior experience or a conventional career path, just passion, dedication and a willingness to learn. Becoming an independent travel agent allows women to take control of their time, their income and their adventures, creating a future that works around their lives, not against them.

If you’re a mum seeking flexibility, financial independence and the chance to travel smarter while building a meaningful business, becoming an independent travel agent could be the lifestyle transformation you’ve been looking for.

To find out more about becoming an Independent Travel Agent please call Emma on 07765 256073 or email hello@andlittlesuitcases.co.uk

 

Aug 08
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happy family

The mindful family holiday

By environment, family, Family Farms, fun for children, Holiday camps, Relationships, Wellbeing
by Adry Capodanno
The Holiday Fixer

10 tips to make travel more memorable (and less expensive)

Family holidays don’t have to be expensive or packed with attractions to be unforgettable. In fact, the most powerful memories are often born in the small, ordinary moments – especially for children. When we shift from “doing more” to “noticing more”, the whole experience becomes richer, calmer, and often, more affordable.

Mindfulness on holiday simply means approaching the trip with a little more intention – and making space in the day for your child to fully experience where they are.

Here are 10 experience-backed ways to bring more presence, connection and lasting joy into your family holidays – without overloading your itinerary or your wallet.

1. Even a simple holiday is a big deal for children
As adults, we often crave ease – a familiar resort, a beach where we don’t have to think, or a well-trodden ski route. It’s easy to feel like we’re just “recharging”. But for children, even the simplest holiday is an exciting experience. The texture of hotel bedding, the sound of a different language, the way the sun feels in a new place – it’s all new. You don’t need to seek out constant stimulation. That hotel breakfast buffet may feel routine to you, but for a child, it’s exciting and fascinating.

2. Leave ‘breathing room’ in the day
There’s a temptation to make the most of every moment, especially if the holiday has been hard-earned. But over-scheduling leaves everyone overstimulated and tired. Instead, keep the itinerary light. Aim for one or two structured plans per day, and let the rest unfold. That half hour spent sitting in a town square eating crisps, or watching snow fall outside a café window, often becomes the memory they talk about later.

3. Begin the experience before you even leave home
Children connect more deeply to places they feel familiar with. Introduce your destination early – through a short video, a picture book, or a few fun facts. Learn how to say “hello” and “thank you” in the local language. When your child sees that same flag, animal or landmark in real life, the recognition brings pride and excitement – “I know this!”

4. Use a destination-themed holiday bingo
This is a brilliant way to help younger children stay engaged. Create a bingo card with images specific to the location: a monument, the local flag, a food item, a traditional costume or a certain animal. The moment your child spots one and ticks it off, it becomes a little victory and the thrill on their face is priceless! It turns sightseeing into a game, and gently encourages them to look around more closely.

5. Let their senses lead
Taste, smell and touch are powerful memory anchors. If your child falls in love with a pastry or gelato, let them have it again – consistency helps memories stick. Let them choose a local soap or spice to take home. A few years from now, that scent might take them straight back to a tiny village bakery or the steps of a museum.

6. Invite them to observe and create
You don’t need to give them a travel journal – though some children love that. A disposable camera, a sketchbook, or even a prompt like “What do you think is the story of this small cafe?” helps children engage with their surroundings. Drawing a lighthouse, taking a photo of a street performer, or collecting small treasures like ticket stubs or postcards adds personal meaning to the trip.

7. Let them interact with the place – not just watch it
Encourage small interactions. Let your child say “merci” at the bakery, ask the tour guide a question, or learn a game from local children. You are teaching them that the world is full of people with different ways of life – and that it’s OK to be a guest in someone else’s culture.

8. Give children a say
Let them help make decisions – choosing between two places to visit, picking a route to walk or a plan B when it rains. When they feel part of the process, they’re more present and interested, they gain a sense of agency and connection to the journey.

9. Mix destinations – strategically
If possible, include more than one stop. Studies in cognitive psychology show that the brain segments memory by context and environment. A few days by the sea, followed by time in a town or mountainside village, creates variety. A shift in scenery helps children form clearer, more durable memories. The key is to transition thoughtfully, not rush.

10. Keep the story going at home
When you get home, print a few photos. Let your child pick their favourites. Display a postcard, a shell, or a drawing. Talk about the best bits over dinner. Retelling the story of your trip helps children internalise it and treasure it.

You don’t need to do more, or spend more, to give your children a meaningful holiday. Instead, notice more – and help them do the same. The real luxury lies in unhurried time together, where the pace lets moments breathe and children can connect with the world – and with you.

Whether you’re surfing down a sand dune, exploring a Christmas market, or watching fish dart under a pedal boat, it’s the moments you truly share that will stay with them the longest.

Adry at The Holiday Fixer specialises in expert, high-quality, bespoke travel itineraries worldwide, with a focus on family holidays and friendly, stress-free, parent-to-parent service. Your next adventure is just a chat away! Contact Adry at adry@theholidayfixer.com or 07583 581042.

Aug 08
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Preparing dads for fatherhood

By family, Mental health, Relationships, Wellbeing
by Gordon Dowall-Potter
MANtenatal

Why support matters more than ever

For many men, becoming a father is one of life’s biggest milestones, and one of its biggest unknowns. While conversations around motherhood are supported by books, classes, apps and appointments, fatherhood is often treated like something that will “come naturally” once the baby arrives.

But here’s the thing: it doesn’t always come naturally. And when men don’t feel prepared, confident or supported, the impact can ripple through their relationship, affect mental health, and family life.

Men want to be involved, but are often left guessing
The idea of dads standing awkwardly in the background while mum does everything is outdated and most modern fathers want to be hands-on from the start. They attend scans, they take paternity leave (when they can), and they’re often just as excited, and nervous, about what lies ahead.

But despite the willingness, many men describe feeling unsure, sidelined or invisible during pregnancy and the early days of parenting. Antenatal services tend to focus on maternal needs (as they should), but that leaves a lot of dads guessing about what their role is and how to prepare.

Antenatal education aimed at men can make a huge difference. It offers emotional insight, relationship tools and practical parenting skills, delivered in a way that speaks to dads directly and honestly.

This is exactly why I set up men’s antenatal classes, to educate, guide and support all dads, no matter their background, relationship status or starting point. Too often, men are expected to simply “know what to do” without ever being shown how. These classes offer a space where dads can ask questions, build confidence, and prepare emotionally, without judgement or jargon.

It’s all part of my personal mission: No Dad Left Behind. Because when we give dads the tools and the time to prepare, they show up for their partner, their baby and themselves. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being present. #BestDadYouCanBe

Mental health: A quiet concern for new dads
Research shows that around 1 in 10 fathers experience postnatal depression, although professionals suggest the real figure may be much higher. Unlike mums, who are routinely screened and encouraged to open up, many men still feel they need to push through alone and in silence.

Some don’t recognise the symptoms, brushing off low mood, irritability or withdrawal as tiredness or stress. Others worry that admitting they’re struggling could be seen as weakness. This silence can lead to emotional distance, tension at home and longer-term mental health issues if not addressed early.

Open, honest support and early intervention is the key – and that starts with normalising the idea that fatherhood can be just as overwhelming for men as it is for women.

The benefits of being prepared
When dads are supported in their transition to fatherhood, everyone wins.

Children benefit from stronger bonds with both parents. Partners feel more supported and less alone. And dads themselves feel more confident, connected and capable. Even knowing how to be helpful – in the birthing room, what to say, how to advocate, what not to take personally, can make a huge difference to how included and empowered a father feels.

Being a dad today is about more than providing. It’s about showing up emotionally, being present and being part of a team. But none of that happens by accident, it takes preparation, and it takes space for men to learn and grow without judgement.

Where we go from here
If you’re a mum-to-be reading this, one of the most powerful things you can do is involve your partner in the preparation process. Whether it’s recommending a class, sharing resources or even gifting him a course designed for dads, it sends a clear message: we’re in this together. It can help him feel included, informed and more confident about what’s to come.

And if you’re a dad reading this, well, you’ve already taken an important step. Just by engaging with this conversation, you’re showing up. You’re seeking support, wanting to understand more and laying the groundwork for being the kind of parent you want to be.

The truth is, fatherhood isn’t something you’re expected to just “know” how to do. Like anything else, it takes learning, patience and support. That support is out there and we’re here to help you find it.

Parenting is a shared experience. When both parents feel informed and supported, families are stronger, relationships are healthier and children thrive.

No dad should have to navigate this alone and with the right support, no dad has to.

Gordon Dowall-Potter is the founder of the multi award-winning MANtenatal programme – the UK’s leading antenatal education platform designed specifically for dads-to-be. Gordon works alongside NHS services and perinatal professionals to improve education, awareness and emotional support for men as they prepare for fatherhood. Learn more at www.mantenatal.com

Apr 23
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Not everyone is “a little bit ADHD”

By Early Years, Education, family, Language, reading, Uncategorized

Expert psychologist tackles misunderstanding of growing condition

As the NHS grapples with an overwhelming rise in ADHD and autism self-diagnosis, Dr Selina Warlow, a leading psychologist specialising in neurodevelopmental conditions and founder of The Nook Clinic, is calling for an urgent shift in how we talk about ADHD. With more than 230,000 people in England now taking ADHD medication, and an estimated 2 million living with undiagnosed ADHD, she warns against dismissing the condition as “a quirky personality trait”.

Dr Selina is issuing a bold statement against the growing trend of trivialising ADHD as self-diagnosis soars across the country. Misunderstandings around the condition, she warns, risk dismissing the very real struggles faced by those affected. She points to the rise of ADHD being portrayed as ‘quirky’, could be a harmful narrative with social media platforms like TikTok contributing to misconceptions, where over half of popular ADHD videos contain misleading information.

ADHD is not a fleeting behaviour about being forgetful or fidgety, nor is it a fun social media trend – it’s a serious neurodevelopmental disorder that deeply impacts people’s lives. The casual remarks like “Isn’t everyone a bit ADHD?” belittle the real struggles individuals face in both personal and professional settings.

The NHS is reportedly struggling to meet the rising demand for ADHD assessments, with experts warning that mental health services can’t keep up. Since 1998, there has been a nine-fold increase in autism diagnoses and ADHD diagnoses are rising sharply. But, despite these statistics, ADHD continues to be trivialised, particularly through misleading content on platforms like TikTok – where 52% of the 100 most popular ADHD-related videos are inaccurate.

“The term ADHD is being thrown around as a quirk or personality trait,” Dr. Selina emphasises. “But for many, it’s a daily battle. Formal assessment and diagnosis and tailored support are critical to help people thrive, especially when nearly 80% of those with ADHD in the UK remain undiagnosed.”

With around 1 in 20 adults potentially living with ADHD, Dr Selina is calling for a national conversation grounded in facts rather than myths.“We need to move beyond casual self-diagnosis and ensure people who are struggling with symptoms of ADHD have access to assessments and support.”

Dr Selina’s expertise comes at a crucial time when the conversation around ADHD needs to shift from entertainment and myth to facts and support. She truly believes that we need to move beyond the stereotypes and support those living with the condition by recognising their strengths and providing the right support and care.

For further information about the Nook Clinic please visit www.thenookclinic.co.uk

Mar 20
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Money makes the world go round

By family, Finance, numeracy skills

We all understand the importance of teaching our children timeless life lessons, such as using good manners and being kind to others. However, one important lesson many of us tend to overlook is teaching our children about the value of money.

The truth is, less than half of children in the UK receive meaningful financial education, whether at home or in school.

Mindy Paul, a wealth accumulation mentor known as the “$100 Million Dollar Coach,” explains below why this is so crucial.

Our relationship with money starts in early childhood. Giving children a proper education about money helps them develop healthy financial habits, make smarter decisions, and set themselves up for a successful future, which is something every parent wants for their child.

Struggling to tackle this tricky topic? Mindy shares some simple, powerful tips for teaching children about money. Here’s what he recommends:
Teach earning
As a parent, it’s easy to be tempted to spoil them rotten. That said, there’s a lot to be said about teaching your child the value of entrepreneurship.

Growing up, I pursued various forms of entrepreneurship, from valeting cars to selling sweets at school.

While I wouldn’t recommend children follow in my footsteps on the latter, not handing them everything on a plate and encouraging them to earn their own money sets them up for success.

If there’s a treat your child wants, trade them the money to buy it with some small, age-appropriate jobs or tasks. This teaches them the relationship between income and effort, and gives them a better understanding of the value of money.

It also introduces the concept of delayed gratification, showing them how to be patient and plan toward their goals.

Encourage collaborative thinking
Children are brimming with ideas and seem to have a new future career on the cards every week.

When your child is talking about their ideas, for instance, their plans of starting a bake sale or selling their crafts, encourage them to enlist the help of their friends.

Encouraging teamwork helps them see the value of diverse talents and working as a team. For instance, one child may be great at baking, while another is skilled at decorating the stall or spreading the word to friends and family.

Teach them that collaboration can multiply their efforts. As one person, you may be able to make a good amount of money. However, if there are others with different skill sets to your own around you, you have the potential to grow even further.

Lead by example
If you’re sheepish and elusive when discussing money with your child, this enforces the notion that money is something that shouldn’t be talked about.

The fact is, money isn’t something to be ashamed of. We should be able to openly talk about money and treat it as a practical and essential part of life.

So, lead by example. Have age-appropriate conversations with them about household bills, work, savings and other money-related subjects. Let them see how you manage your money responsibly.

Show them how you budget for essentials, save for the future, and even treat yourself occasionally. This transparency puts them in great stead for years to come.

Simplify savings and investments
Many of us struggle to wrap our heads around the likes of investments now, but think about how much further ahead you’d be if you were taught from a young age?

The concepts of savings and investments can be simplified. For instance, you can say things like, “You can have one toy now, or two if you put the money away until later.” This introduces them to the idea of making choices that benefit their future.

You could also encourage them to use jars labelled ‘Spend’, ‘Save’ and ‘Share’, to help them allocate their money wisely and consider short-term, long-term, and charitable aspirations.

Introduce the idea of charity
It’s all good and well teaching your children to be responsible with money, but it’s equally important to teach them the value of sharing with others.

Encouraging them to donate to charity, for instance by dedicating their spare change to placing in charity collection boxes, fosters empathy. It also can teach them valuable life skills such as leadership, resilience, social responsibility, and problem-solving. By helping others, they also learn the satisfaction and pride that comes from giving back to their community.

For further information please visit www.mindypaul.com

Mar 18
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Demystifying male infertility

By family, Health, prenancy, Relationships
by Professor Geeta Nargund
Medical Director abc IVF

Infertility is still widely thought of as a female issue. Yet our research revealed that the male biological clock has a more prominent role in the outcome of IVF treatment than was initially thought. Why is male infertility less understood and what should men and couples be aware of when considering starting a family?

Media stories of older fathers have helped to perpetuate the myth that men do not have a biological clock – but celebrities like Robert De Niro and Al Pacino are the exception to the rule. It is important that men are educated about the impact of their age on their fertility so that couples can make informed decisions about when they want to start a family.

The impact of paternal age
The facts are clear: paternal age impacts the outcome of IVF treatment. For women aged between 35 and 40 with a male partner aged 40 and over there was a steep decline in the live birth rate. To be precise, the live birth rate dropped from 32.8% where the father was under 35 to 27.9% where the father was aged between 40 and 44. The most dramatic decline in the live birth rate was to 25%, in cases where the father’s age was over 55. This can be attributed to both the quality and quantity of a man’s sperm decreasing with age.

Increased paternal age can also lead to a higher risk of miscarriage. The rate of miscarriage is twice as high for women with male partners over 45 years old compared to women with male partners under the age of 25.

Paternal age did not have the same impact on women under the age of 35 or over the age of 40 conceiving. This is because the eggs of younger women are better able to repair the higher incidence of DNA damage that are often found in the sperm of older males.

In addition to affecting conception, paternal age can have an impact on the couples’ children as well. The offspring of men who are over 45 are five times more likely to have an autism spectrum disorder; five times more likely to have mental health problems; and thirteen times more likely to have an ADHD diagnosis.

For a long time, a woman’s age and fertility have been assumed to be the only determining factor in the outcome of fertility treatment. This research disproves that myth by revealing that men too have a biological clock.

It is now time couples were better informed about the impact of the male biological clock on their fertility. This is why I have campaigned for a national curriculum that promotes fertility education and is committed to empowering young people with the knowledge they need to make informed decisions about their future.

Optimising your fertility health
So, what are the options for men looking to boost their fertility levels? Well, there are a variety of things that can be done, but the most important rule to remember is that your general health and fertility health go hand in hand – so it’s best all round to aim for a healthy lifestyle.

This will include cutting down on alcohol and quitting smoking as well as eating a healthy, varied diet. I would also recommend exercise which is helpful for lowering stress levels and keeping within a healthy BMI range.

Reasons for male infertility
We’ve established that exercising and cutting vices such as alcohol and cigarettes can improve fertility. The logic follows that the inverse (excessive drinking and a no exercise) can increase the risk of infertility.

However, there are also genetic and medical conditions which can contribute to infertility that men need to be aware of. For example, varicoceles (prominent veins); blockage of the ejaculatory ducts; undescended testis and testicular tumours can all contribute to infertility. Additionally, whilst this condition is much rarer – impacting 1% of the male population – extreme cases of azoospermia result in seminal fluid which contains no sperm at all.

Furthermore, sexually transmitted infections and underactive thyroids can increase the risk of infertility in men and women alike.

When to seek medical help
It is time to speak to a doctor if the couple have been trying to conceive for six months and if the female partner is over 35 and the male partner is over 40. Similarly, if both partners are under 35 and have been trying to conceive for 12 months, they should also seek medical advice. This will allow the couple to explore the available fertility tests and treatments, if that’s a path they wish to pursue.

Knowledge is power
Whilst the prospect of male infertility and a male biological clock may sound daunting, an awareness of these issues is crucial in allowing men to make informed decisions about their fertility health. One approach is to have a national curriculum which highlights infertility prevention, arming the next generation with knowledge and destigmatising the topic of male infertility.

Professor Geeta Nargund, Senior NHS Consultant and Founder and Medical Director of abc IVF and CREATE Fertility. For further information please visit www.abcivf.co.uk or www.createfertility.co.uk

Mar 06
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Pop outside and let the play begin

By Childcare and Nannying, Education, environment, family, Forest School, Green

by Sylvia Roberts and Rachel Humphrey
Little Earthworms Children’s Nursery and Pre-school

The importance of children playing outside is essential to their development – countless studies over the years have shown the benefits on children’s, physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. Having worked with children in nurseries and as nannies since we were teenagers, Rachel and I are quick to spot when it’s time to get outside!

When we opened our nursery 15 years ago, one of our top priorities was having a good-sized outside space so that all our children could benefit from being outside as much as possible throughout the year. Popping on a sun hat and exploring the outdoors in the warm sunshine or dashing outside to chase the snow, no matter the time of year, being outside improves us all.

Time outside in the sunny days has an immune boosting effect on our bodies, producing vitamin D, improving our cognitive performance, and boosting our serotonin levels to support our mental health. The benefits really are endless. The quote “There is no such thing as bad weather, only different kinds of good weather” has been said in many ways over the years and we really incorporate this sentiment at our little nursery, engraining it into all our daily lives.

There is nothing better on a rainy day than getting the waterproof clothing and a good pair of wellies on and going outside, jumping in puddles. Jumping, splashing and running are just a small part of being outside. At any time of year children are able to explore risk and help work together at tasks such as setting up a game or activity together, digging in the garden preparing the vegetable patches, or going on a hunt to find where the best snails, slugs and woodlice are hiding.

Children’s friendships and social interactions can change and be explored in new ways while being outside. Children gain new confidence alongside their peers while they push the boundaries of not only their physicality but also expanding their emotional intelligence along the way.

Children love being outside, as their young minds are naturally geared towards creativity, problem solving and role play games. Vivid imaginations can flourish with outside play, all of this being harnessed and strengthened with the use of the many natural resources available to them through the art of exploration.

Children of all ages benefit from the vast sensory experiences when outside; the squelching of mud, the crinkle of leaves, the smell of flowers and plants while watching birds or looking out for rainbows overhead. There are endless opportunities within the outside environment for children to expand their knowledge and develop through their play.

We are very passionate about every aspect of outdoor learning. Children thrive outside and often have a fantastically engaged learning experience when the learning environment is based in nature.

Having structured play and free play both inside and outside is essential for children to adapt and learn in their younger years. Playing and learning new skills during their early developmental years gives children the tools to grow and thrive. So many developmental aspects are pushed to engage and prosper when being outside.

Communication and language are expanded naturally when playing outside as children feel freer to engage in loud vocal play such as shouting and whooping. Language can develop through curiosity of a new environment and enthusiasm of sharing their new experiences as they adventure through new rich habitats.

Outside time can certainly be hard to come by when living in a city but at those times it becomes even more important to pop outside and let the play begin.

Living in Sussex, we are lucky that there are so many outside spaces and fantastic natural areas that, with adult support, children can explore and enrich their lives through. There are many parks, small green spaces, gardens, open fields, nature reserves and, of course, not forgetting the beautiful beaches. The joy of engaging with nature is limitless!

Being outside, children are engaged and full of life while gaining so much through the opportunity of developmental play. Children harness their natural environmental experiences, socialising, growing and learning about the outdoors, while engrossed in nature in a myriad of technicolour ways.

Does life really get any better?

Sylvia Roberts and Rachel Humphrey own Little Earthworms nursery and pre-school on Ditchling Road in Brighton. Having worked in childcare for more than 50 years between them, they have been running the nursery for 15 of those wonderfully enriching years! The nursery is a large open plan bungalow with a beautiful spacious garden for our chickens, vegetable patches and of course our pirate ship for many an adventure! Please call or email to come and have a look around. Tel: 01273 243182 Email: Little.earthworms2010@gmail.com

 

Mar 06
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The importance of physical activity on children’s mental wellbeing

By Childcare and Nannying, environment, Exercise, family, fun for children, play, Playing
by Debbie Webb,
Founder of Activ8 For Kids

Physical activity is an all encompassing term, which can refer to PE lessons at school, participation in team or individual sports, running around at the park and much more. Each one brings its own physical benefits such as healthy bones and muscles, a strong heart and lungs as well as developing fundamental movement skills, speed, strength and stamina. However, physical activity can bring a wealth of other benefits to children, meaning that even if your child is not ‘sporty’, helping them develop a lifelong habit of regular physical activity can help them across many aspects of their life.

Physical activity is defined by the World Health Organisation as any bodily movement produced by skeletal muscles that requires energy expenditure. This includes walking to school, cleaning their rooms, kicking a ball around in their garden and any other movement that uses energy. The NHS recommends that children aged five to 18 years need to take part in 60 minutes of physical activity per day and for children under five it is 180 minutes.

We know that this is important for physical health and the importance of developing strong bones and muscles at a young age but do we consider all the other benefits our children are getting when they are being physically active?

As adults we have all been there; it is cold outside and we want to stay inside, warm and dry, but we feel tired, lethargic, possibly even a little low or agitated. If we are able to pull ourselves out for a walk, the fresh air can help wake us up, make us feel more invigorated and awake. We may return feeling tired, but it is a different type of tiredness – a good tiredness. It is the same for children, physical activity in any form can wake the brain up, release good chemicals and help them feel more alive.

We live in a society where computer games, TV and social media are part of life but it is important to help our children develop habits of coming away from screen time whenever they can, or at least to plan in breaks from the screens. A family walk along the beach, or in the woods can have so many positive effects on the whole family, time to talk, have fun with each other, wake your brains up and step away from the screen. It doesn’t have to be a long trek, a short walk around the block can have similar effects.

What are the benefits?
Physical activity can help hugely with maintaining mental health. Endorphins are released during all types of physical activity and can help to improve mood, energy levels and sleep. Physical activity has also been linked to a more positive body image in children and young people.

We are hearing more and more about rising anxiety levels in children. Physical activity can help break the cycle of anxiety by helping them focus on something different and gaining a sense of achievement, even if that is a short walk, taking a ball down to the beach or getting out on their bike. The feel good chemicals released in the brain during activity can also help a child with anxiety. There are so many pressures on children and young people in today’s society and many of these are amplified by social media. Taking part in physical activity can help children make friendships out of school, improve their confidence and help them with social anxiety.

There are many activities available that don’t focus on elite ability and are there to encourage physical activity, it is a case of exploring the options, looking at holiday activities, after-school clubs and going out with your child when you can. The benefits to your child’s mental wellbeing will be priceless and will stay with them for the rest of their lives. We need to help children recognise how physical activity makes them feel better about themselves and encourage them to find the activities they enjoy.

Debbie Webb is a qualified teacher and sports coach. She runs Activ8 For Kids and has developed programmes of activity for the different ages and stages between two and sixteen years old based on the fundamental movement skills. For more information please visit www.activ8forkids.co.uk

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