Early Action for Autism – Communication workshop 27th February 2018

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Just a quick blog to let you know that we have a communication workshop coming up on 27th February, from 10am until 2pm (sessions will run as normal on the day).

The training has been designed for parents of a child who:

  • Is using mainly gestures to communicate
  • Has limited communication, of any form
  • Shows frustration frequently

The main objectives are:

•       To understand how and when to teach a request to your child

•       How to overcome obstacles when teaching requests

•       To leave with a communication plan for your child

It will be held here, at the Yews, 55 Boltro Road, Haywards Heath, West Sussex, RH16 1BJ, and will cost £25 per person.

If you are not sure is this is suitable for you, please do get in touch and we can explain in more detail, and you can ask any questions you may have.

To register, please go to our training page

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Enjoying reading puts children ahead

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Recent research published by the National Literacy Trust reveals that three-quarters (77.6%) of primary school children enjoy reading – the highest levels ever recorded by the charity. The research also highlights the link between enjoyment of reading and attainment, showing that the longer children keep an enjoyment of reading going, the greater the benefits are in the classroom: 10 year olds who enjoy reading have a reading age 1.3 years higher than their peers who don’t enjoy reading, rising to 2.1 years for 12 year olds and 3.3 years for 14 year olds.

The research launch marks the 20th anniversary of the National Literacy Trust’s Young Readers Programme – the first-ever national school based reading for enjoyment initiative. To celebrate, the charity has published a top tips guide for parents to help get their child excited about reading, alongside a book list to inspire children to get reading, which celebrates the most popular books chosen every year of the last two decades by the children who have taken part in the Young Readers Programme.

Jonathan Douglas, Director of the National Literacy Trust, said: “20 years after we launched our Young Readers Programme – the first national reading for enjoyment initiative of its kind – we are thrilled that our research has found children’s enjoyment of reading to be at an all-time high. When children enjoy reading and have books of their own, they do better at school and later in life, so we must continue to do everything we can to inspire children to fall in love with reading for a lifetime. Parents play a vital role in when it comes to helping their child develop and sustain a love of reading, which is why we’ve published our top tips to help parents encourage their child to read and a book list with some inspirational children’s titles!”

Top tips for parents:
• Make time to read: read a bedtime story with your child every night or set a regular time to read together during the day. Little and often works best: a good ten minutes reading together is better than a difficult half hour!

• Let your child choose what
to read: your child is more
likely to develop a love of reading if they are able to choose the books they read
with you. Join your local library for free and your child can pick from a wide selection of books that suit their interests or play to their hobbies, such as football or animals.

• Explore different reading materials and formats: as well as fiction there is a world of comics, magazines, ebooks, read-along audio books and non-fiction to discover.

• Get the whole family involved: encourage your child to read with other family members like grandparents, brothers and sisters, and aunts and uncles.

• Bring stories to life: when reading stories out loud with your child, give characters different voices that match their personalities. You could pause the story and ask your child what happens next, or even try acting out parts of the story together.

• Create fun reading challenges at home: on a rainy day you could organise a treasure hunt around the house; give your child a list of things to find and see how quickly they can read the list and collect all the items.

• Be positive: praise your child for trying hard at their reading and let them know it’s alright to make mistakes.

• Be a reading role model: your child learns from you, so seeing you enjoying and valuing books can be a great inspiration.

Parents can also use the National Literacy Trust’s book list, 20 Years of Children’s Choices, to help inspire their child to read. The list celebrates the most popular books chosen every year of the last two decades by the children who have taken part in the Young Readers Programme.

For more information on the Young Readers Programme, visit

For more advice for parents to support their child to read, visit

Are children being over-protected in the digital age?

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Heavy-handed approaches to issues around social media and digital communication such as ‘sexting’, may be damaging to children’s emotional development, according to research on childhood in the digital age, by academics at the UCL Institute of Education (IOE) and Plymouth University.



The researchers interviewed children who told them most of their online activities were relatively harmless. The children said they were aware of explicit images being passed around but had rarely been personally involved – however, parents and teachers were often unnecessarily anxious.

Some children described how their parents would monitor their phones and emails, doing regular spot-checks or even receiving copies of all their texts or online messages. In some cases, the youngsters were even tracked using GPS. Teachers, too, would examine the contents of pupils’ phones.

“There is a serious risk that the next generation of our society develops in a way that makes them think they have no right to privacy,” said Dr Leaton-Gray and Professor Phippen in their book ‘Invisibly Blighted: The digital erosion of childhood’.

The researchers argue such heavy-handed approaches can often be counterproductive, and that teenagers who do transgress online are behaving rather like those who, in the past, might have made rude gestures from the back seat of a school coach on the motorway.

Dr Leaton-Gray said: “Something that was a 10 second thing on the school bus now becomes a permanent feature of your life. We need to be a bit more laid back about the fact that it’s happening, and spend more time and energy on educating children about their privacy rights instead. To put it simply, it’s almost always
wrong to pass on images and personal data without permission, and victim blaming is not the answer.”

Punitive approaches can be unnecessary and even damaging. For example, the response to incidents of ‘sexting’ has often been to threaten to involve the police. This contradicts police guidance, which suggests those who send offensive ‘sexts’ rarely pose an ongoing threat, and that prosecution is therefore not usually the best approach. The authors argue that laws, which were designed to protect vulnerable young people from abusive adults, are actually being used against them.

Similarly, schools have often misused the Data Protection Act in defence of decisions not to allow parents to take photographs events such as plays – which are not covered by the Act – while breaching it themselves by using pupil photographs without explicit consent in their own prospectuses and on their own websites.

The authors say that schools need to face the demands of living in a digital world and that we need policy, practice and national coordination, which acknowledge, rather than shies away from, the challenges that arise from growing up in the 21st century.

Invisibly Blighted: The digital erosion of childhood’ by Sandra Leaton-Gray and Andy Phippen is published by UCL IOE Press.

Autism Spectrum Disorder

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A way of life for nearly three million people

by Leila Stayton-Dyke (BSc, PGCert, MSc, BCBA)
Early Action for Autism

Autism affects more than 700,000 people in the UK – that’s over 1% of the population. If you include family members, autism is part of daily life for 2.8 million people throughout the country.

Early recognition is important in order to allow children to reach their full potential
Each person with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) has different strengths. There is not a fixed set of behaviours which result in a diagnosis of autism. There are a range of traits including difficulty with communication and social skills, and ritualistic behaviours. Diagnosis is far from simple.

Parents of a young child are likely to be given conflicting advice about when developmental milestones should occur. They may be told that ‘children are different, they learn at different rates and in different ways’, so how do we know when developmental delays are part of an underlying condition?

Autism in the early stages of development
It may be difficult to see the early signs of autism as they can be subtle or attributed to a baby simply being laid back.

The initial signs are often related to the baby’s gaze, hearing and play. A young child with autism may appear not to see people, and may look out of the corner of their eye. The child may initially appear to be deaf, but rarely actually has any loss of hearing. Children with autism may also appear to have a general lack of interest in their surroundings.

As children get older the differences in development may become more apparent. Parents may notice a lack of empathy, different reactions to sensory stimuli – for example, finding noises, textures or sensations dramatically over or under stimulating. Refusal to try unfamiliar foods or to eat in unfamiliar settings, remaining in nappies, repetitive play activities and difficulties with the world not being exactly the way they would like, may also be seen.

What should I do if I see these early signs?
Health professionals should listen to all parental concerns. Take a family member or friend to visit your GP or Health Visitor. Go with a list of concerns, no matter how small, and don’t be afraid to ask questions. What you have observed might not be a sign of autism but you know your child best.

Getting a diagnosis of autism will allow children and their families to receive the education, support and services they require as they grow older. Due to the complex nature of autism the process is time consuming. However, there are specialist services and support groups immediately available; take time to talk to other families in a similar situation and join online groups.

Early recognition means that interventions can start. Research has shown that early intervention – programmes such Applied Behaviour Analysis (ABA), Positive Behaviour Support (PBS), Speech and Language Therapy (SLT), and Occupational Therapy (OT) are highly effective in supporting a child with autism. These evidence-based practices allow children to maximise their potential and reduce the delay from the normal patterns of development.

Children with autism crave sameness and routine, and breaks from that can often cause them to become disruptive – so it’s important that interventions begin as early as possible before these patterns of behaviour become established.

Early intervention ABA programmes are fun, motivating and creative. They successfully develop areas such as communication and social skills. Teaching a child to communicate their immediate desires results in a reduction of difficult problem behaviours and is an essential and ongoing element of an ABA programme. In turn, social skills such as increased eye contact and early conversation skills are taught. When started early, teaching self-help skills enables the child to become as independent as possible, for example, getting themselves dressed in the morning. By targeting selective eating, ABA programmes ensure children have a balanced healthy diet, leading to future long-term health.

Early Action for Autism is a centre for children with autism and related developmental disorders.
We provide specialist 1:1 ABA therapy, programme consultation and individualised training.

Learning’s a risky business

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by Richard Taylor-West
Headmaster, Shoreham College

I must say I was pleased to see a burst of common sense from a high level government officer, in the summer. Amanda Spielman, who heads up OFSTED, an organisation that sometimes causes teachers to wince, said that she was not at all sure about seeing pupils in hi-vis jackets during school trips.

She said that the culture of wrapping children in cotton wool was damaging for pupils, as it makes it difficult for them to learn to cope with normal everyday risk. I nearly jumped for joy, if I am honest. “Thank heavens,” I found myself thinking, “someone speaks common sense.” Not always what we get from government!

Almost immediately, of course, I found myself thinking that perhaps I am being a little unfair to parents. I am a parent and, after all, our children are immensely important to us and our instinct is to protect them at all costs. We are, after all, hard-wired to do it. A headmaster I know once said to me that every parent has the right to be emotional about their own children, at least once. I think he was right about that.

If we set the emotion to one side for a moment, I think Ms Spielman is right. I do think that overly protecting children cannot be good for them and I think most reasonable parents would agree. Here is the rub, however. Here is the nub of the question: how do we draw
the line?

Schools work very hard, all of the time, to ensure that we are drawing the line in the right place. People like me go to conferences about it and I should reassure parents that schools have probably never been more careful. Schools now have to abide by more legislation and rules than you can shake a stick at and, on the whole, we think we are doing the right thing by doing so.

On the other hand, it is important that we enable young people to manage risk. Taking part in the Duke of Edinburgh Award Scheme is a good example and we do that here at the College. Learning how to navigate your way across the downs, cook for yourself and work in a team, when things get tough, presents such a fabulous opportunity. We train them, of course, but they will make mistakes too – and not all mistakes can be avoided.

In our Junior School, we have a Forest School and we encourage the pupils to take part in discussions about how to make shelters, cut wood and make fires. They have a go at really doing it too and yes, they are carefully supervised, but there is an element of risk to the activities.

There are other risks too that we need to help deal with, as schools. Social media is perhaps the most pressing, in some ways. I couldn’t contact 500 million people from my LED digital watch in 1978, but children can now. That is scary, to be honest. Again, most schools work with their pupils to learn how to use these tools. We don’t take all of the machines off them, all of the time. We do not think that is the way forward and research tells us it isn’t. We do, however, tell them about the risks, how
to manage them, and we work with parents to highlight the dangers of Instagram accounts for people under 13, for instance.

Academically, there is an interesting conversation to be had too. There is always a risk that pupils will be upset by failing. Yes, there is. We need to ask ourselves, however, why that is. Do they become upset because their parents expectations are too high? Do they become unhappy because we adults have not prepared them and trained them to see failure as necessary and key to becoming successful? I believe it’s now apocryphal that Michael Jordan, the famous basketball player, was asked how he scored so many hoops. He replied something to the effect that it was because he had missed thousands before. Food for thought.

Writing in the Guardian a few years ago, the teacher and psychologist, Marc Smith commented that ‘”Those with a growth mind set view failure as a temporary stop on the way to success.” If that is genuinely the case then we need to teach pupils to have a ‘growth mind set’ and to see that each barrier, challenge and so-called failure is nothing more, on the whole, than a step to success. We also need to teach them that success has many faces.

Schools, of course, need to keep pupils safe and this can never be underestimated in terms of importance. On the other hand, we do need to help children to face challenges, allow them to make errors and give them tools with which to work on what life throws at them. If we don’t, we might not be preparing them for the world and they may never grow up. We try hard to get this right; we won’t always. Schools must be able to learn too.

Please call 01273 592681 to find out more about what Shoreham College can offer you, or to arrange a personal visit at any time of the school year.





Disconnecting to reconnect

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by John Ingrassia
Headmaster, Windlesham School, Brighton

As a former ICT teacher and co-ordinator, I am an unlikely candidate for advocating that children should reduce the amount of computing time they enjoy. But that is exactly what I suggest. Indeed, I would not be the first person with a mild interest in computers to make this argument. The late Steve Jobs forbade his children completely from using the very same iPad his company was selling. Similarly, the co-founder of Twitter also limited his children’s access to screens.

My thoughts on this topic were crystallized several years ago after reading a book by Susan Maushart, ‘The Winter of Our Disconnect’. Fortunately for my sons, they were near the exit of their education at the time so could not ‘benefit’ from the full impact the book had on me. However, the thumping message of Susan’s book became permanently impressed on my conscience and I have since preached sanctimoniously to parents, friends and colleagues alike about the revelations of Susan’s experiment.

The ‘experiment’, as Susan refers to it, is born of a mum’s growing awareness that, although her three teenage children co-exist in her home, for the large part they are only really active in their individual cyber worlds. Family engagement, conversation, group enjoyment and interaction have all become an endangered species. Susan decides to take control and disconnect her family from all links to the World Wide Web. For the subsequent six months, Susan diarizes her observations and draws our attention to some fascinating studies on related issues. But Susan’s observations only really made the impact they did because, as often happens with observations that make an impact, they echo what we already know; in this case, that ‘connecting’ people through the phenomenon of high res screens is actually disconnecting them from face-to-face interaction and all the associated benefits.

Those of us who have been teaching longer than 15 years or so may have noted a trend in recent years towards a slightly different type of pupil progressing through our schools. Pupils now (and I accept that I am casting my net widely) tend to be less able to fill free time without devices, to compromise on their choice of games, to negotiate the rules for playing, to tolerate losing or unfavourable game decisions, to persevere through challenging problems and to develop independent ideas. Interestingly, there exists an uncanny coincidence between my initial timing of these observations and the invention of the iPad in 2010. I hasten to add that these observations are not exclusively mine. I have heard many colleagues and parents comment on the same trend for quite some time.

While most of us reading this article are either digital immigrants (born before the creation of the www in 1989) or the first generation of digital natives (born after 1989), pupils now passing through our primary schools are the second generation of natives and are therefore experiencing their formative years in a far more mature and advanced internet environment, where the gravitational pull of devices is much stronger than ever before.

The reasons for this are varied. For a start, Moore’s Law, which in 1969 predicted that computing power would double every eighteen months, has continued to hold true and even increase its pace of computing progress, resulting in high calibre computers and devices becoming the standard even for emerging users. Next, consider this: in the last five years alone, we have recorded more information on the Internet than in the entire history of mankind, thus making the surf-able landscape virtually endless. And add to that the plethora of beautifully crafted apps, the exponentially expanding YouTube universe, the movie-like qualities of online gaming, with vastly improved visual appeal and targeted marketing campaigns, not to mention the ease with which all these apps, games and social media are now instantly accessible wirelessly from any location on aesthetically adorable devices, and you start to wonder, “Four Gee, how do children ever disconnect?”

Back at Susan’s ranch, there are some surprising discoveries. Within weeks of starting the experiment, her house becomes the local haunt for nearby teenage friends who marvel at the wonders of Monopoly and other board games. Her son, a lost soul with no clear calling (of Duty, of course), digs deep into his cupboard to find a long-abandoned saxophone, which, by the end of the experiment, becomes the focus of his future ambitions. Her daughter, normally a habitual multiple social media flipper, has no option but to focus on a single homework task at a time, resulting in greatly improved grades at school. In the absence of a smartphone, previously used to access advice and opinion from the world at large, she begins to also display greater self-reliance.

Similar findings to those outlined by Maushart have been echoed by Psychologist Jean Twenge writing in The Times this year. In fact, Twenge makes her point with more disturbing statistics; for example, in the past year, Childline received more than 4000 calls from children as young as six suffering loneliness. She cites an experiment which required certain Facebook users to give up their use for a week. Those who did, ended the week ‘happier, less lonely and less depressed’ than those who didn’t. The link between increased screen time and the decay in mental health has been repeatedly confirmed in numerous other studies.

Blaming children for the way they play in this virtual playground is clearly pointless, and wrong. We created this environment, yet statistics and observations would suggest we offer little in the way of rules or guidance. Clearly, as parents and educators, we have some tough decisions to make. But then that’s our job. What is certain is that although our generation continues its age-old quest to secure a better life for our children, by giving them more screens, more time and less regulation on their devices, we risk not doing enough to make them happier, better people.

Windlesham School runs pupil-led tours of the school in action every day! Please contact 01273 553645 to arrange a visit.

Forest School

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by Clare Eddison
Head Teacher, The Dharma Primary School

Forest School is growing in popularity as a way of teaching Early Years children important learning skills in a natural and dynamic environment. How does this approach differ from general ‘outdoor learning’ and ‘eco-play’, and what are the key benefits for education?

What is Forest School?
According the Forest School Association, “Forest School is an inspirational process that offers all learners regular opportunities to achieve and develop confidence and self-esteem through hands-on learning experiences in a woodland or natural environment with trees… it is a specialised learning approach that sits within and compliments the wider context of outdoor and woodland education.”

This ethos is shared by thousands of trained practitioners across the UK who follow these key principles: Forest School must consist of regular, long-term sessions in a woodland or natural environment; sessions must develop a positive relationship between the learner and the natural world and Forest School must use ‘a range of learner-centred processes to create a community for being, development and learning’. It aims to actively support the holistic development of participants and offers children the opportunity to take supported risks appropriate to the environment and to themselves. In addition, Forest School must be run by fully qualified practitioners, who are themselves dedicated to maintaining and developing their professional practice.

What are the benefits?
Children come to nature already primed and connected – they do not need to reconnect in the same way that we do as adults. Children can be radically different out in nature from how they are in the classroom, as another – perhaps deeper – part of their being comes into play. It is as if a veneer falls away as they quickly return to a more natural state. Children have not been ‘tamed’ and are generally more present and deeply connected to the natural environment; they quickly engage with building shelters of all kinds, learning new skills and successfully overcoming their fears. They do, however, need the tools and understanding to be future advocates for the planet. Forest School helps the movement from a more egocentric approach to one which is more compassionate and ecologically-minded.

There is a wealth of research supporting the efficacy of outside learning experiences for children of all ages, educational needs and social backgrounds. Activities beyond the classroom can provide children with some of their most vivid learning memories, helping them to understand their impact upon the wider world and to develop practical knowledge and social skills that are easily transferable. Through engaging in collaborative outside activities children learn how to work as a team and to encourage and support the efforts of others. They become good listeners and negotiators and are supported in being brave, self-reliant and flexible. Perhaps, most importantly, it’s fun!

Forest School teacher, Caroline Woods, explains, “Learning in an outside environment exercises all the learning muscles and skills needed to thrive – resilience, cooperation, collaboration, reflectiveness, independence.”

What does a session involve?
A typical Forest School session might include a mixture of self-directed play, skills-based activities, observation quests, collaborative games and singing. Practical skills taught can include whittling, weaving, fire lighting, safe saw practice, campfire cooking, flora and fauna identification, tracking and shelter building. The Forest School ethos naturally lends itself to the practice of mindfulness, as Forest School teacher, Caroline Woods, explains: “There are many opportunities to develop a sense of focus, presence and connection with nature. The group might sit together around a fire circle, engaging in periods of collective stillness and reflection where the children are free to share experiences and thoughts.”

Through being fully absorbed in what we are doing and observing in nature, we are present in the moment and able to connect more easily with stillness, guided meditation and self-reflection. In developing a profound appreciation of nature, we also begin to nurture a deep understanding of interconnectedness, compassion and change. By developing respect for other living beings, we begin to understand our responsibilities as guardians and curators of the planet.

Clare Eddison is Head Teacher at the Dharma Primary School and Nursery in Brighton, which welcomes children aged 3-11 years.
In addition to producing happy, resilient children, the school’s unique ethos – inspired by Buddhist principles, with mindfulness at its heart – supports positive learning behaviours and academic excellence.

Three things a school can do to prepare children for the 21st century

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by Sarah Partridge
Early Childhood Leader, International School of London in Surrey

High on a prospective parent’s checklist is often a school’s Ofsted rating, but with over 80% of schools in the UK being judged as ‘good’ or ‘outstanding’ what other factor>s should be considered in choosing an education for your child? Key questions to ask are: how are schools preparing students for the 21st century and how are they developing the skills our children need to be ready for life beyond the school gates?
ISL London

As an educator and a parent of two teenagers, I would like my children to develop as confident, tolerant, well-balanced citizens who have critical thinking and problem solving skills, plus the resilience necessary to succeed in a challenging world. This article outlines three ways in which schools can develop these attributes in their students: use of the outdoors, service learning/community engagement and a well-being focus.

Outdoor Learning

The physical benefits of time spent outdoors are well known, however, there are other positive impacts that being in a natural environment can have on children. For example, I recently observed a group of primary children in the school’s forest working together to figure out the best way to erect a tarpaulin, despite wet weather and limited resources. To be successful, the children needed to demonstrate
resilience and use problem solving skills in a way that would have been difficult to replicate in the classroom. These skills link with the following OFSTED statement: “When planned and implemented well, Learning Outside the Classroom contributed significantly to raising standards and improving pupils’ personal, social and emotional development.”

Learning Outside the Classroom – How far should you go?
OFSTED report 2008.

Service Learning/Community Engagement

An emphasis on real life learning opportunities allows students to connect what they are learning with taking action. At the same time, this plays an important role in developing their understanding of the positive impact they can have on the world around them. A four year old in my school, who was initially nervous about an upcoming visit to an elderly care home, came back bursting with enthusiasm to tell me he had made a ‘new friend’ there. This now confident young student then explained to me, step by step, how he had taught this new friend to play a ladybird game and asked when he could go back. These real-life experiences allow our children to develop the skills to become well-balanced, responsible and tolerant individuals; skills so important in these uneasy times. This is echoed by a quote from the Kellogg Foundation: “Educators are drawn to service-learning because they believe it produces important educational results for students, schools and communities. In individual interviews, they can clearly articulate their observations of the effects. They give many examples of students becoming more altruistic and caring, growing more concerned about their community and community issues, and learning more in specific content areas.”

The Impacts of Service-Learning on Youth, Schools and Communities,
W.K. Kellogg Foundation


According to global rankings on student well-being published by PISA in 2017, UK pupils are amongst the unhappiest in the world. The study found that one in six of its students are unhappy, ranking the UK 38th out of 48 countries in its happiness study. It also reported that UK students were more anxious about testing than students in other countries. The high stakes testing culture in UK schools seems to be affecting the well-being of our children. Schools need to find a way to respond to this. Well-being should be given a central place in a school’s programme and not just be seen as an add-on. Mindfulness programmes, therapy dogs and opportunities for exercise are just some of the things that schools can do to support good mental health. But schools can also take action by not over-emphasising to children the importance of testing. Education is not just about examination results, as highlighted in the following report: “It is widely recognised that a child’s emotional health and well-being influences their cognitive development and learning, as well as their physical and social health and their mental wellbeing in adulthood.”

Promoting children and young
people’s emotional health and wellbeing – Public Health England report 2015

My own children are coming to the end of their time in school and I am fortunate that they attended schools that placed importance on all of the areas outlined above, as well as many more aspects of what I regard as a well-rounded education. I
urge any parent looking for a school to take a moment to reflect on what they really want for their child and how the school they choose can prepare them for this.

ISL Surrey is an independent primary school in Woking, for children aged 2 – 11. The school provides an outstanding education, with a curriculum based on the principles of the International Primary Curriculum (IPC).
There is in addition extensive wrap-around care and a focus on student well-being.

Getting the grown-ups to agree

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by Richard Taylor-West
Headmaster, Shoreham College

A senior manager in education once said to me, “Of course, one of the most difficult things is when we are trying to work with a young person, but the grown-ups don’t agree.” I cannot remember when it was said, or who said it, but I do remember being struck by the force of it.

What interested me about this proclamation was that although it seemed at the time to be a comment on agreeing practicalities like homework, or who has achieved a prize or prefects’ badge, it has, when true, more far-reaching implications than it might at first seem.

The headmaster of a well-known school in the north of England recently wrote that he feels that “right now there is certainly a job to do with the health and well-being of young people in our care”. He is right: there is and I cannot help feeling that this may have something to do with the statement I have quoted above.

More than ever, we live in an environment which seems to be giving rise to an astonishing level of opinion about almost anything and everything. Social media, for example, seems to lend itself to the publishing of a view point about all things under the sun and instantly. And, of course, so many people have become experts overnight, haven’t they?

I haven’t even begun to touch upon the increasing notion that knowledge is highly negotiable and it really depends whether or not you are in the possession of ‘fake news’ or ‘alternative facts’. These two cosmic forces can throw a whole new spanner in the works too.

Someone asked me recently what I was giving up for Lent and I answered ‘opinions’, as there are far too many of them, I think. Yet, of course, ironically, here I am writing something for a magazine. That fact does not escape me, but I’ll do my best to observe, rather than judge.

We only have to think about how many different reports and viewpoints we have seen in the last few years on the benefits, or not, of red wine to see that bringing education into the picture is bound to elicit quite a few perspectives – from ‘experts’ and non ‘experts’ alike.

If I proclaimed “homework is good for you”, you will find teachers who will argue about that quite loudly. They usually begin with, “well that depends”. If I said that pupils should be rewarded with prizes on sports’ day, I have known different families respond in markedly variant ways. If I said pupils must take responsibility for their actions, most parents might agree, although I have seen parents disagree with each other about this, when it comes down
to the nitty gritty of it – and that is a challenge too.

Here’s one observation: it seems to me that whilst there is something to be said for diversity in life, it might also be true that for young people developing their ideas and values, utter confusion might not be the way forward. In fact, I suspect it is wholly unhelpful. It destabilises them and can be isolating. It can create a kind of moral loneliness.

So, what about schools? What can we do to work against this potential chaos, which does not help young people? That is a tricky question, of course, but I think there is one starting point. Each school has to form its own ethos and attempt to persuade parents that it is a reasonable one, even a good one, to stand by and uphold.

It is then up to the parents to buy into that ethos, quite literally for independent schools, and for the school and the parents to work hard together to create as much consensus as possible for the good of the young people they are jointly nurturing. From my observations, confusion and a lack of clarity in what the ‘grown-ups’ think is rarely helpful. The school and the parents really should collaborate on what is a challenging and complex project.

If I were to sum up our ethos it says that we strive to provide an excellent academic education, which enables all of our pupils to be realistically ambitious and make confident informed choices, in a safe environment that is in keeping with a Christian tradition whilst widening pupil horizons as people who have a place and social responsibilities within a local, national and global community. We say that we encourage and promote a strong partnership between pupils, parents and the school, recognising that each member of the school community has an equally important role to play in contributing to the success of the individual and to the overall ethos of the College.

Naturally, of course, there is going to be the vexed question of interpretation. What does being ‘realistic’ mean or ‘informed’ in terms of our statement above? This is definitely problematic. (We would have thought the Ten Commandments might have been fairly straightforward, after all. And look what happened there.)

Good schools also strive hard to prepare young people to make choices in terms of their values and moral standpoints. Schools can offer the pupils real choice and understanding. That said, a school should make a stand in terms of values. It should expect pupils to show respect to others, take part, work hard, engage with their own working lives with a great deal of ownership and self-discipline. Schools should expect young people to be honest, have integrity and take on their share of the hard work and responsibility that making a living breathing community entails. Surely, no one could disagree with these simple things?

I am concerned, however, when I see young people being brought up to think of number one first and to believe that life is simply a consumer experience to be had and for the benefit of individuals only. In other words, an approach that says “this is for me and I would like it my way” and “all things are negotiable, aren’t they? After all, who knows what is true?” This seems doomed to me and not helpful at all to schools. It is socially unhealthy too.

Well, that’s my opinion. I didn’t quite manage to give them all up for Lent, after all.

Please call 01273 592681 to find out more about what Shoreham College can offer you, or to arrange a personal visit at any time of the school year.

Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy?

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What is Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy

and what can it do for me?

by Ian Mackenzie (Dip.CBH, Cert Hyp, GQHP)
Alliance Therapies

Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy is primarily a talking therapy that incorporates a variety of proven techniques and procedures including cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness, neuro linguistic programming (NLP), hypnosis, mental imagery and visualization work. Having a variety of approaches allows the CBH therapist tremendous flexibility when providing treatment. We are not all the same, so it makes sense that we will respond differently to certain treatments so having a number of options can greatly enhance the likelihood of achieving a successful outcome to therapy. All treatments are proven to be both safe and very effective in reducing or eliminating many of the issues that we experience in today’s busy society, for example.

Stress: Stress is becoming more and more prominent in today’s society – why? Because in the busy world we live in we are constantly bombarded with activities and information, time restraints, work, money, family pressures and more; all of which can cause stress. Sometimes our brains and bodies need a break in order to relax and recalibrate; mindfulness and relaxation techniques are wonderful at doing just that. Reducing stress levels is very important as it can often be stress that is the root cause of many other problems.

Insomnia: Around a third of all people experience insomnia at some time or other and its effects can vary from mildly irritating to devastating. In serious or longer term cases, many turn to medication for help and whilst sleeping tablets may work for a little while, they become less effective over time and can become addictive.Quite often, if you are stressed or worried about something then your sleep will be the first to suffer and if allowed to continue, poor sleeping habits can develop. Most long-term poor sleepers have, over time, developed poor sleeping habits and it is these habits that need to be changed if one is to create a lasting solution.

Anxiety: Public speaking, sports or performance anxieties, fears and phobias; these are just a few of the issues that can lead to worry, rumination, panic or avoidance (fight or flight).From general to acute issues, the majority of these problems are caused by a perceived lack of confidence or ability. CBH specifically targets these areas, challenging your fears and boosting your self-confidence to allow you to achieve (within reason) whatever you desire.

Weight control: Many people know the misery of being on and off diets on a regular basis; yo-yoing between trying the latest fad diet and maybe losing a bit of weight, only to see it pile on again as soon as they return to their old eating habits. CBH addresses the root cause of the problem which is why the person is under or overeating in the first place. It is only when we understand the answer to that question that we can progress to address those eating habits and bring about lasting, sustainable change.

Smoking cessation: Everyone knows that smoking is expensive and not exactly good for your health, and about 79% of all adult smokers would like to quit if they could (Gallup poll). Of course you have to be motivated to stop smoking and the CBH approach incorporates different elements to boost that motivation, to question and then eliminate your desire to smoke, because you can only have a craving for something if you have a desire to do it. If you remove the desire, you take away the craving allowing you to stop completely, easily and forever. Hypnotherapy has been proved to be the most effective treatment available (New Scientist Magazine (Vol 136); in fact you are about six times more likely to stop smoking using hypnotherapy than by willpower alone.

If you think you could benefit from CBH why not give Alliance Therapies a call and arrange
your free initial consultation?
Contact Ian Mackenzie on 01273 840382 or email