by Edmond Chan
Childline Practitioner
As we begin to welcome in the spring, the lighter evenings and warmer weather, as parents of school-age children, we also start to usher in exam season – a period which can bring with it anxiety and worry for parents and children alike.
Older children can sometimes be a bit more accustomed to the process of revision and exam preparation. But for children at primary school about to do their SATs, it’s often the first time they’ve experienced the examination process, and it can feel very daunting.
One 11-year-old girl* who contacted Childline told counsellors: “I’m stressing out about taking my SATs. It’s a lot of pressure and I worry I’ll be in the bottom set. My older siblings didn’t have to take them because of COVID. I feel like nobody understands or listens to me.”
Exams can be extremely stressful for children and cause them a lot of worry and anxiety. But there are some simple things you can do to support them and help them prepare.
Before the exam, you can help them take control by designing a revision plan together and building time for relaxation into it. If you’re not sure where to start, the BBC Bitesize revision planner can help you: www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/articles/zn3497h
It’s important to remove any distractions so they can focus on their revision. Make sure they put their phone away and turn off the TV during their revision sessions to aid their concentration. You could even offer screen-time as a reward for revision time.
A good night’s sleep is really important, so make sure they go to bed early to get some rest the night before an exam. This will help them more than revising all night. And don’t forget to set your alarm to get them up and ready for school in plenty of time.
On the day of the exam, it can help to try and stay positive. Remind them all they can do is try their best. If they’re worried, they could try watching some funny clips on YouTube – laughing could help them feel less stressed.
They might say they don’t feel like eating, but ensuring they eat a good breakfast before they leave the house will help them feel energised and improve their focus. Drinking lots of water to stay hydrated is vital too, and if they start to feel stressed or anxious, suggest they try taking deep, slow, calming breaths in through their nose and out through their mouth.
During the exam it’s important they read the instructions on the paper before they start and ask if they’re not sure about anything. Remind them to take a moment to read the question and a few seconds to breathe before they start writing anything, to help them gather their thoughts.
If there’s a choice of questions, it might be best to start on the ones they know they can answer best, leaving some time to read over the answers at the end. If they get stuck, suggest they move onto a question that they can answer better.
When a child is worried, one of the most important things they can do is to talk about how they’re feeling. Talking can reduce the pressure and help them to feel more in control, so remind them they can come and talk to you about any worries they have. But if they find that difficult, they can talk to Childline, free and in confidence.
Children and young people can call 0800 1111 to speak to a trained volunteer counsellor over the phone or visit www.childline.org.uk to chat online using our 1-2-1 service.
You can find lots more advice and practical tips on the Childline website www.childline.org.uk/info-advice/school-college-and-work.
*Snapshots are based on real Childline service users but are not necessarily direct quotes. All names and potentially identifying details have been changed to protect the identity of the child or young person involved.
